Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.
The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.
Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.
How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:
- Think in a positive way:
If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.
- Expectations:
True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?
If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.
- Don’t force them to love you:
The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.
The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.
But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.
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you are absolutely right in your point, i agree. we should not expect anything but then why some says : never hurt the one who loves you the most ? 🙁 and if the one who knows that we love them, why do they even try to hurt us ?
Hey Rahul, There are many people who love us but we can’t accepts everyone’s love. when we say no to the one who loves us,it automatically hurts him/her but we have not done it intentionally. The same way happens to us, if we love someone and he/she don’t love us back then we will feel hurt.
WE ARE HURTING OVER-SELF, NOT THAT PERSON.
hey Ruchi…one thing i want to share with u that why girls are doing that..firstly they make friend and talking like as like he is her boyfriend..and when boy want to share his feeling then she replied we are only friend….
i hate girls…
hii,can u tell why the girls uses heart breaking word for the guy who really love her even after when she know that guy really loves me.
is writing love letter is wrong way of expressing love to a girl?
please reply
Abhinav, A love letter is the perfect way to express yr love for a girl. We respond to words and small gestures such as gifts with amazing results. Learn how to woo us and chase us. We are worth the effort, believe me.
You are wrong at your point. Let me ask you a question. How did you know that she is acting like you are her bf ?? Each and every girl have different way of acting with boys. Just notice her when she is talking with any other boy. How she is acting. Thankyou
hey ruchi i want to talk to you smething can you send ur email id to my id
hey ruchi i want to talk to you smething can you send ur email id to my id
Hey Mansi,
You can contact on [email protected].
You should never have any expectation from the start. Hug, held hand, showing intimacy scientifically is what girls usually do to their friends. It might be strange for two guys to do that, but for two girls, it doesn’t affect much in society’s eyes/
It’s just the differences in gender.
When someone NEVER said anything about how you both are going out, or never said that they love you as a lover etc. You should never “assume” things. By doing so, you are hurting yourself yet you blaming someone else for it.
Its because…
U try not to hurt dem, nd make dem undrstnd DT dey shud not xpct anythng from u, coz u dnt love him or her.
Nd if d prsn dnt undrstnd DT simple thing,because of his feelings which are overwhelming. Den d other prsn starts ignoring him,bcz he or she thinks if CNT change his feelings,she can at least ignore him…nd try to stop d topic from making more serious further.
Nd DT ignorance hurts d person.
So in short….no one wrong.
That word love is grossly overused,and much too casually in our society,as is evidenced by our divorce rate.
What I can’t stand are those who butterfly their hands under their chin,flap their eyes,and with an angelic look on their face,say,”I love everyone”. HORSE DUNG! Only one person who ever lived had the capacity to love everyone,and I am not Him!
Some people say it because they want something from the other person. Others say it because they think it is expected of them. Others toss it out there as if it were a softball.
Yes there are different ‘kinds’ of love. I love my dog. I love my father,mother and siblings,and my few life long friends. I love my country.
But I DO NOT love everyone,nor do I want to.
My wife was the only woman I ever loved. When she died,my capacity for that kind of love died with her.
I have no doubt there are many loving and very loveable women out there,but what kind of a man would I be if all i did was compare them to my late wife?
Let’s be pragmatic about this. If there is someone in your life who has not told you they love you,consider the possibility that they DON’T!
What you said is right, but it comes under one side love. In another case it is hard to digest after knowing that the one whom we loves rejects us.
Me & my gf are from differnet castes….my gf’s parents are very orthodox nd sumtimes dey slap her very hard on her little mistakes….nd we r 99% sure dat dey won’t agree on our marriage…also we won’t marry widout dere permission coz we both respect our parents…so plz help me in my problem….we love each other nd can’t live without each other…plz help me…
Make a choice. Are you too strong enough to marry against their wishes and face the consequences? If your love is stronger than that, just go for it. Parents wouldn’t be initially pleased, but hopefully they’d come round. The world is changing.
Hey, I am in a relationship with a gal about 5 yrs. Both of us love each other very much. But the problem is: She is nearly 8yrs younger than me. I lied to her that I am 6 & 1/2yrs older than her. I know if I tell her the truth, she may love or hate me. What I care about what her feelings? What her parents will think? What should I do? She become my life … So plz advice me.
Hell man, go for it. I am 9 yrs older than my wife and have been married 50 yrs. A terrable thing can happen in any relationship, thats a lack of passion. Some times inexperience is confused with that. AND, THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS VIAGRA WHEN I NEEDED IT. At the present time I am fantizizing over Rebecca Hall.
@leggellove thanks for your comment. I’ll keep your words in my mind. But I asked this ques respective to our families, and our mental stability in future for the long term relation. Anyways Thanks a lot.
tell her the truth if she loves you she never let you go and if i were you i don’t care about her parent only about her
Mickey, no offense, but screw the caste system. It’s ancient, it’s premodern, and it doesn’t serve us anymore. Maybe there was a time and reason for it, but not so anymore. You respect the one you love by agreeing to marry, or you respect your parents by agreeing NOT to marry. Either way, someone is disrespected. You can’t please everyone, so please Love. It’s not something that happens every day. It’s sacred, it’s special, it’s rare. It’s life, it’s health. Denying it is absolute agony. Grab that woman and marry her. Your parents will eventually be happy and accept it when they see that YOU are happy.
you are write, I agree with the points u have mentioned and I will follow it from further
Thanks, Thanks a lot
If you force him/her to love you back! Then the person you really love will end up ignoring you forever!!
Be his/her friend and always try to help them! One day, they will know that you are the one who really cares!
This works!
nope. not if they are committed and happy with someone else. does not matter.
I am in a relation with a guy from the last 5 years but since the last 1 year, I started feeling for another guy. The second guy in my life loves me a lot, but he is not ready to marry me due to some cast issues in his family. Now, I am in such a situation that I can leave everything for this person, but he is wants me to get settled with my previous boyfriend, who is unaware of all these things. What should I do?? Please suggest.
Hey Smita, when it comes to long term relations you should be transparent and never ever sail in two boats. Since you are in relation with a guy from 5 yrs, I would suggest you to be with him only and share with him whatever is going in your mind. I guess with second guy your relation is just because of attraction and not love. Sometimes we get bore with monotonous routine or relation and thus other people with different lifestyle and nature attracts us. And it shows clearly that other guy is not in mood to have a long term relation with you. Thus its better try to bring spark to your old relation. If you need to discuss more, you can contact me anytime. Wish you luck in your love life.
hey smita, be it 5yrs or 10yrs i too was in a relation for 7yrs nd den fell in love wd sumone who was in a relation 9 yrs. he too loved nd infact told me to move on wd my boyfren bt my love for was so strong dat i cudnt give up on him.. we had lot of fights nd tug of wars bt i kept loving him till da extent that he had no choice bt accept me.. i dint not force him to love me but infact loved him so much dat he had no option bt leave everythin for me. sumtimes bein lil stubborn does wrk. i feel bad dat i left my guy half way bt bein wd him nd havin sumone else in ur heart wud b even worse situation. now i hav completed 3yrs.
thnx for posting… gave me a lot of inspiration….
Yeah! Me too
“True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?”
This is bullshit. More bullshit western pop psychology. In reality just like everything else. There is respect gain from mutual exchange. Giving and giving without end to others who do not care is not normal. There is no such thing as one way unconditional love. Perhaps women conform to this kind of madness. But for a man to give of himself is a big deal. To have that love taken for granted breeds anger. It’s that simple.
@tired valid point. What to keep in mind is we don’t choose who we fall in love with. Love chooses for us. Its not fair to pass anger onto a woman who wasn’t lovestruck for you as you were for her. There are 2 ways to go with this. You can disassociate yourself try to get away and mend your wounds. Or live with the pain and use your love for her in a positive way by giving unwavering friendship and support and be grateful for being a part of her life. Even if it isn’t the role you were hoping for. You could become best friends with the love of your life which is what I did. Going on 14 years and I won’t lie to you, the pain doesn’t go away but I have. Very fond memories doing things, having fun, just spending time with the love of my life and to have that no pain is too much. I break down and cry about it sometimes I won’t lie. But pick your poison, you can run and miss out on the highest highs toc avoid the lows. For me I’ll take the ups with the downs
@jonjon, well said. We don’t choose who we fall in love with. And usually love isn’t perfectly mutual. When one pines, the other pulls away. And when one pulls away, the other may assume a lack of interest when it is actually just protecting our fragile heart from the pain of rejection. Sometimes being friends is the best way – or only way – to love someone.
I fell in love with a man half my age. He also fell for me. But I was already married. I never thought such a thing could happen… I was demure, not flirtatious, I did nothing to attract him; it was just a mutual connection from the very first conversation. It grew into love as we worked together, and it became agony as I realized my marriage was not as satisfying as being with him. He asked me to leave my husband, and I considered it, but then we both felt guilt for such a thing, knowing that marriage is just as sacred as our love. We decided to be “just friends” because he wanted children and I was approaching menopause. Neither of us cared about the age difference; I looked 15 years younger and he looked 10 years older. It just wasn’t practical, and had the potential to hurt too many people. We met almost 3 years ago, and now live 1200 miles apart. I ache for him every day. I think he is aching less as he has hope for a future wife, but he still misses me. That’s why I say, people! When you are both single and in love, what’s to stop you? Don’t limit yourself by caste or faith or age… Love is love… And it demands our allegiance. Allow it to blossom. Resisting it is pure agony. But if you must, and you are able… Love them as friends. You never know what doors may open down the road. A good movie about this? “My Best Friend’s Wedding”
You know not what Love is. this is obvious from your post. You speak from your ego. Love is unconditional, selfless, not to be tainted by your primitive ideas. So many people have no idea what Love is because they cannot see beyond their own ignorance.
so you butthurt because the one you love doesn’t love you back?
I think you just selfish here. What if one random strange person suddenly proposed to you? Will you accept them just because they love you? Will you accept anyone just because they love you? What you said is beyond ignorance. You wanted mutual exchange? What gain will the other party have if they don’t love you but you forced your love on them. You’ll be the only one gaining.
I don’t know if it good or bad…all i know is I love this guy who is Indian ( and also happens to like me – told my sources) we are amazing friends,
but he is in a relation with a Chinese girl. (i am an indian)
I know love does not have limits.
I boldly expressed my feelings and how deep they are. But also told I can never be ok with his GF and going out with her. I was angry , I yelled at him and cried the whole night. Now I completely stopped talking to him. I feel empty, all i need is him, his love and friend ship , I can not see him with this girl. I feel i am a very possessive and bad person.
But this is coming naturally from inside … i cannot help it … but i love him.
I just left
Dear Lilly
same thing is happening with me. i love a girl very much whenever she talks some other guy i get hurt that time. i have very strong feeling for her, many time i also cried whenever i miss her but she does not know about that she is not in any relationship & does not want to get in any relation she is typical indian girl.
she is just 20 yr old & i am 26. we both know each other for last 6 month
sometime i feel we have huge age difference that’s why i am not able to express my feeling to her, i also feel that she will not understand my feelings if i will tell her
I believe in expression. You have to express your love. Though the person is single or in a relation. Get what you want. If he/she does not give it back its fine, but never live with the guilt that you did not express your emotions. Emotion is very strong , its stronger that yourself .
Message to all the 1 side lovers in the world … express your love my dears… there is nothing wrong doing it ……..
thank you for your comment.LIFE IS TO SHORT!!!! People listen to what this person is saying.experess your self DONT FEEL THE GUILT of never speaking up for your emotions for someone.I just told my special person how i felt through caution to the wind and yes got rejected–well i feel bad but i feel so much better now and maybe even move on somehow!!!
just be positive and be happy at the moment for what u have. just rember that nothing is forever. only what u can get at the time can satisfy you for your hunger of the person u want to have. keep bz, be happy, do things that u love, find other alternatives to move on with your life. there is no point to get stuck. that is how i handle my problem.
….i really like ur point of view…
..its like living the life to its fullest because we can never go back to the past…
…when u show ur feelings to someone to the best u cant theres no regrte bout it….and its up to them to realize it later if they let us go….
I personally don’t think it’s normal to fall for someone your not with or maybe I’m just cold hearted but love is obviously conditional if it wasn’t than there would be no expectations and maybe people need to take a step back and see if this love is to your benefits but falling in love with someone else’s boy/girlfriend is plain stupid your asking to get hurt and think really hard rather you can steal someone away or do you even know what that person is looking for
no need to steal, just be yourself. show your love to the person, and thinking not only possession can really matter. no grief, just be positive.
You speak as if we have a choice. Love is not a choice. Love just is. Love is not about physical attraction or dependent on anything. Love flows naturally from all of us until we try to control it with out feeble minds. Most people will never understand what Love is because they try to make it conform to this world we have created.
I did not even notice I had fallen in love with this man. I’m not sure what love is. I am sure that if he hadn’t pulled me into his net I wouldn’t have fallen in love. There was always that spark but I just ignored it. Seemed too farfetched. Today was the last day I would see him for a while. It hurt. Still does. In my case it’s has to do with social structures interfering with love. I wish we could love who we love with no consequences for either parties.
Hi, (i’ve changed the names)
I’m in love with my ex fiance (violet) still who fell out of love for me, she let another woman in her life and went after her (lucy). I was hurt and angry to begin with but i’m over it now. What hurts is that she has now broke up with the girl (lucy) she went after and ended up dating because the girl (lucy) was sleeping with her ex the entire time and cheating on her. Violet was broken over it all and in this last month she and I have been building up a friendship. But what really hurts is that I had to take my ex into hospital the other night because she overdosed at my house because she didn’t feel like she could be without her. It kills me when she texts me saying how much she misses lucy and how much she wants to see her and I feel like second best, I know i am and i’m okay with it, I just wish she said she missed me, that she loved me. because even though we’re not together and she’s made it very clear she doesn’t love me, i love her so much. I lost my family because of her because they didnt like the fact we were together, im gay and my parents cant handle it. The best thing I would say to anyone who is in love with someone that they can’t have is that if they are an ex, you need to get them out of your life for a few weeks or months until you can look at them without it hurting, or if they’re a friend then tell them because at the end of the day, no matter how old you are, you’ve got too much life left to spend it worrying about everything. I’ve cut myself to bit, punched the crap out of things and cried till I was physically sick, and i’d never want anyone to hurt the way I do. I know there are a lot of people out there that will carry on getting hurt, and I don’t know if anyone will even read this. But I hope it helps. It helps me to know that there are other people out there who understand my pain. I live in hope that violet will remember that she loves me, or even fall in love with me again and she can meet me at the alter one day. Ive dated someone else since her and it’s just not the same, i couldn’t stop thinking about violet and I had to end it in the end because she was just too nice a girl to lead on. I’ve said it a million times before and I’m sure we’ve all heard it, it does get better, it just sure as hell feels like it won’t now. Thank you for reading my story, I read this blog and say everyone’s comments and I just felt the need not to bottle it up for just a moment. <3
I Fell in luv wit my close best frnd…it felt lyk heaven wen she was wit me…she lyk’d me too..but yet she rejected me due to silly reasons…v can’t fallin in luv wit sum1 based on caste or religion..luv just happens. Dat’s nevr in our hand…i’m a christain and d gal i luv is a hindu brahmin. She rejected me bcoz of d caste problem. Yet she’s still close 2 me.lyf’s beautiful wen she’s in it..v r so close 2 eachothr dat every1 in our college thinks dat v both r in a relationship.
its been 4yrs i still can’t stop thinkin abt her.she mean’s d world 2 me. But she doesn’t bother abt my feeling’s. It hurts alot. Not able 2 move on in lyf.
Its not so easy wen v luv sum1 more than our lyf…most gal’s don’t understand d feeling of guys. wen v luv truly.dat gals would mean d whole world 2 him.
i hav nevr forced dat gal 2 luv me or anytin. Till 2day i hav nevr disturbed her either. But wen she’s upset or in any trouble. D 1st person she think’s / call’s is me.
All dis feeling is keepin me a little happy.
No matter wot happen’s atleast a little of dat luv on her would always be in my heart forevr and evr.
Easy 2 tel ‘move on wit ur lyf’
But it’s nevr dat easy and it nevr happen’s too.
i meet dat gal may b once in 3 or 6month’s.
Yet d tym i c her make’s me fall in luv wit her again and again.
It’s true dat der’s pleasure in pain too
sailing in the same boat. she is my best friend, but can’t have her because of different caste. she feels for me (not the same way I do), cares for me, but going to marry someone of her caste soon. she is still my good friend and I still love her without expectations. love the person, accept the reality and be happy for her is the only key to move on.
Absolutely right
I’m in love with a guy who doesn’t have time for me I always call,text him but he doesn’t reply back my heart is so painful I can’t even concentrate what should I do about this matter? 🙁
that means he is uninterested and hints u to move on. there are more guys out there that suit u better, why get stuck with something u know that is not going to happen. its a waste of time.
ur right!enjoy life..that hurts but later on when u busied urself with many things it will pass like a wind…
I was really close friends with this guy he was more of
A play and never thought about love but than
He ended up loving me to a point were he’ll
Do anything for me i was scared of him hurting
Me so I used to hurt him only cause I was scared
Of a broken hear but I ended up falling for him
and when I went overseas
He kinda changed and used to call me up
But always hurting me. Which changed me of
Being my self around him. This guy whoz
My brothers mate ended up coming to ask for
Me in marriage and when I told the guy that my
Brothers mate wants me tell your family about
Me he wanted to come and he ended up telling his
Mum but my mum wasn’t happy about him
Cause he was a different reilge my mum didn’t
Want to talk to me any more and all my friends
Told me that he was with me well he was
With other girls and I believed them and the
Guy that wanted me for marriage his family
Treated me like a princess and I didn’t want my
Mum being upset with me and I started hear shit
About the guy I love and the things he does
Made me back away and I really don’t know
How I ended up with my brothers mate and
My brothers mate is a really nice guy it’s just
That I’m still in love with the other guy and I know
I hurt him and I didn’t mean to so much things
Heppen that hit me through depression sometimes
I ended up get enaged to my brothers mate
And sometimes he makes me forget the world
By than again my heart cry for the guy I think I’m
Still in love what sound I do I really need your
Help right now 🙁 And I just find out he was with any
One and it was all a lie but some say that he was
And others say that you also liked
Your sister cause he was really close friends
With he but than again real eyes realize real
Lie please help me I broken up with my finance
But it doesn’t feel right leaving him I like my fiancé
A lot he treat me like a princess but my
Heart still crys for the other guy. Tell me what should
I do
the person i love is my best friend and she is absolutely amazing and all i want for her is to find someone she’s happy with, whether it’s me or someone else. she’s changed my life and she deserves to be with someone she loves. i wrote her a letter the other day and told her how i really felt and what i believe she deserves because she doesn’t think she deserves to be happy or to fall in love. i told her that she deserves everything she can get out of life, including to fall in love and to be loved in return. i will probably never get over her, but i really don’t want to. she makes me happy and that’s all that matters.
I felt the same way, my BFF always said that if one if us was a guy we’d go out… I always agreed with her, but thought to myself: why do we have to be opposite sexes? I guess she’s not interested in girls… I’m not really either, but I love her. All you can really do is love them unconditionally. I want her to be happy too. I tell her how beautiful she is all the time and she believes me. Sometimes I think we forget how much we take care of eachother and get to absorbed in life and other relationships. Just make sure your friend knows you care at the least.
You get it. You let it flow through you without grasping too tightly. Your friend is lucky to have you in her life. You are special. When you say “I will never get over her, but I really don’t want to” you are speaking from two different points of view. Not getting over her is your desire to be loved in return going unfulfilled but not wanting to is your heart being connected with her no matter what is going on physically. Just love her as you do. Everything will follow the path it is meant to follow.
I’m in love with a guy from 3 and half years.But I felt that he was changing from January in this year.I asked him what was the reason for that….He told me that we are not matching and lot of reasons.Finally he said that he want to break up.I feel really sad….I thought that he will come back to me soon….but before 2 weeks I found that he has another affair with a girl who work at the same office last 6 months.It was really hurt me knowing that he cheated me last 6 months.After I knew about his affair I met him.Now he tell me that he is still love me but he can’t leave his new girl friend.I’m still love him very much………I feel that he also love me….I can’t concentrate what should I do now……
is what many guys do, and maybe another guy who really loved you couldnt get close to you and hesuffered, because you were “with a boyfriend”..while he was just hangin around and looking for another girl…..you must not fall into this trap again, always talk to him as if you were gettin married, if he runs, he didnt loved you that much…….be wise!
I am involved with a man I can’t have. I fell in love…But he will return to his country and marry, and I will stay here with a empty heart. The love I feel towards him is unconditional, I love him so that I will let him go. I want him to be happy even if we can’t be. Though it’s hard as he says he loves me too, I wish him to be happy and prosperous. I have never felt for someone to wish to see them happy and not hurt. Finally experienced loved and even though there will be no happy ending for me, I dont regret any minute of the time we had together. So loving someone and not expecting anything in return is right but doesn’t mean its easy.
i id experienced the smae experience as u are..it really hurts..but bcause i loved him so much i understand him….i let him go eve if i left alone….for i dont regret that once in mylife we give chance to what we feel…
But why is it that we always lose. even whne we give our heart…
Sweetstoney, so am I! A good friend informed me the male loves the chase and if love comes to easily to him then he quickly loses interest. I suggest you stop calling and texting him. As difficult as it is focus on being present in your interests and work. Go out and meet new people, join activities where you will be involved with and meet many different types of people. Invite special friends to the place where you live or to meet at a coffee shop…invite this special person (he may or may not come – don’t hold out any illusions he will) but at least he will see you doing more without him and enjoying life. The more interesting you become/the more interesting you are to others. Funny how easy it is to give the advice then to employ it … good luck to us both as we sail these murky waters. Love and peace –
This page and your points are so true & I want to tell U s.th that may looks I`m just joking but I love someone that i saw him just 3 times in my life & don`t know anything a bout him i even never speak to him, i saw him in a ceremony and since then it`s a bout 3 year that i did not see him again. he travels to another country & now there is a condition that i can see him again in another ceremony, my heart tells me to go & see him but my mind tells me not to do it, I never let anybody to be my friend & I don`t know even he saw me or not! I want to ask you i should go there or not I really miss him so much but If I see him It gets harder for me to forget him, please if you can help me, tell me what to do. Thank U so much for reading.
I think this is very rare, i mean i have fall for some girl which i KNEW in person but she never wanted me as a man for her, just friends, but i fell hard and i never kissed her or something, but i learned the hard way not to fall for someone that is not attracted to you, in your case you saw him 3 times and you felt attraction for him, but you never did anything to get close to him, because society tells you is not right for a girl to walk to a man and show interes, it maybe in the year 1000 AD but we are on 2014 and you should have come close to him and ask anything tryin to talk to him, and that would have helped a lot, next time have more courage and forget social norms
I have fallen in love with a guy, there is 3 year difference in age but thats not what Im sad about.
I live in UK and he lives in America and he doesnt even know that I love him, we are close friends from when he used to live in my city…we keep in touch and occasionally see each – other.
I dont know what I should do, if i should tell him or just move on and be friends….or what.
If you are close friends then he will surely understand your feelings. You must tell him what you feel for him and wish you luck for same 🙂
I think it’s important to stop forcing the relationship in your head. Not everything the person you love does is intended towards you, so try to stop building up your life or relationship together. This is kind of like “think positively,” there are many things the person who you’re in love with has probably taught/showed you and instead of using those things for love of that person, use them as things to love about yourself. The rejection of onesided love is painful but it is not anyone’s fault. Self love and time cure it. Just be willing to let go.
thnx for the tips……………but hey can i ask you something??what if i love a person, and that person doesn’t even know me??and i can’t even say it to him………like i can’t confess…..its like he doesn’t even know i exist……..what will i do ??
hey i was engaged from last one year , always some small fights would appear between us … as causal couples. but in this fight he msged me that he doesnot want to marry me … and this is our end. its been 5 days he niether butcalled me nor msged me …. i m missing me …. dat tym i tried to make explain many things but he took this decision in anger ….. what should i do now ? plz help
Hey Manisha, it’s better that you talk to him directly and clearly what he wants from this relation. Right now you are just engaged and thus can move on but once you will get married it’s tough to break relations. I know its sounds quite rude but this is high time to clear things up otherwise after marriage such fights might ruin your whole life. Marriage is really beautiful only if you are married to someone you truly love.
If you need to share your problems, you can contact us anytime.
for the past year and a half, I have been in love with a coworker that is ten years older than me. At the time we met, I was seventeen and he waited patiently for me to turn eighteen, before he started pursuing me. During this entire period, I fell in the sort of love, where somehow every single thing I do is for that person. He seeps into every activity of my life. I can’t do anything without thinking about how it affects the way he perceives me. We work together four days a week, so I constantly see him. We have built a good friendship. We have been together intimately only a handful of times. He only sees me as a young girl that he can hook up with whenever he pleases. He does not want to be in a relationship with me and I don’t think he even respects me enough to consider it. Although, I know he is attracted to me sexually, I honestly don’t know how else even thinks of me. I don’t know if he even really respects me as a person. Anyway, I am in love with this guy, who I know will NEVER want me back the way I want him. The worst part is that I know I need to move on, but It is so difficult because my desire to be with him is trumping my reason. I am happy in almost every other realm of my life, except this one. But this situation takes such a toll on me. I need to get the fuck over this guy!!!!
Hey Nilu, Good thing is that you know that the guy is just playing with your feelings. You need to be brave and have to move on. You are young and can spent time with friends of your own age. I know it’s tough to move on when you have intimate relationship with someone but we have to be practical. He is not worth for your feelings and when it comes to see him regularly then this article will surely help you out: https://www.letstalkrelations.com/how-to-get-over-someone-you-see-everyday.html
Thank you a lot Ruchi. But I think that this type of one sided love can be regarded as the “Platonic” love not the “True (or higher) love”. As the “Platonic” love is possible to do by general guys why can not we expect respond for them?
As instance- a few days ago I’ve fallen in love of a girl. The girl is too junior than me. She is only at 12 Where I’m at 23. Yes she is a child. I’ve no sense of passion towards her and I don’t want to get her as my life-Partner but, beloved. She is well developed physically and (perhaps) mentally. She perceives that I love her strongly. She can make a reply but does not. I know that towards her it is just not my “Metalphysical” love but, “Platonic” though I want a respond form her.
Would you kindly describe this fact to help me? Thanks in advance.
hey, I need some advice…
Well…there’s this cute-handsome boy who’s one of my closest friends…we’re very good friends and I share everything with him…we often text each other in facebook, that’s the only way we talk…things were going fine, but, I think I’m now in love with him…he reads in the same cls with me in my college…n we’re both 17…
The problem is, I don’t wanna tell him that I’ve got huge crush on him…
And I’m also confused because he doesn’t want to be in relationship…
But I assume he also likes me…a lot in fact!
Tell me, what do I do? Should I get over with him? But I’ve loved him too much to let him go…:(
Hey Erica, If you love him then you must tell him about your feelings and make sure you say it very naturally, I mean don’t force him to say yes too..Make sure if he is not ready for this relationship then you need to behave normal and talk to him the way you always do. This way at least your friendship wont be ruined and if he is a nice guy he will surely treat you as a good friend and understand your feelings.
We ended up together… 🙂 thanks…:)
Congrats Eriza.. Happy for you 🙂
Hey I’m in love with a guy for past eight years,but due to some unavoidable circumstances we could not get married to each other,now we still in relationship,but our partners are not aware about the fact .we both are unhappy coz we both still can’t live without each other but at the same time we cnt give divorce due to family pressure.but from my end I am determinned that even though I am unable to marry the person I love,at the same time I’m also not ready to ruin my husbands life,coz I know that even if I dnt give divorce to my husband I will nvr be able to give full justice or the actual rights which my husband actually deserve.my husband loves me but I feel very guilty that I’m cheating him badly,my mom is aware about everything ,she always try to make me understand dt u try to love ur husband it will gradually happen ,but I I belive dt forcefully I can’t love someone,coz I dnt want to lead a comprising life,ratHer I guess I will be happy beling alone for the rest of my life,coz I can’t even think about any other guy except whom I love wether he marry me or not,pls help n tell me wether I’m right or wrong?
Hi Smita, One thing comes to my mind about you is you are “totally confused” and actually it’s very natural. We belong to a society where many of us don’t love their husband but we do care for them and their feelings. Now about your lover, I would suggest, that you break up with him. That guy was not having guts to marry you that time.. no matter what the condition it was and married someone else. Being a boyfriend is very easy and it’s really tough to be a husband. You can’t sail on two boats at a same time.
Remember that your husband was there with you in your good and bad times and unless you won’t leave your bf you won’t able to find love with your husband. Only you can take decision, either think about you and your coward bf ( I am saying coward because he don’t want to loose you and don’t have guts to tell her wife about you) or think about your husband and family who loves you unconditionally.
I am sorry to be harsh but you have to be practical and be strong to take decision. I understand it’s tough and if you need more suggestions you can contact us anytime.
i fell in love with a girl who’s my classmate in college and a close friend. she broke up with her ex a few years ago and i heard one time from my other friend that she does not want to be in a relationship for the moment.
its kinda sad for me because i had a plan on telling her my feelings and how she’s amazing to me. we study together, text each other, and talk about anything we like for a long time. yet im not sure for now if i still have to tell her just for expressing my love or should i just bottle them up.
im in need of advices 🙁 she the first girl from whom i fell deeply in love with 🙁
thank you
Hey Takeshi, when you love that girl so much and you both are good friends then you must tell her about your feeling and give her time to think. Friends do have understanding and I am sure she will respond in good way. If she is not ready for love relation and make her comfortable and just try to continue your relation like now. I know its tough but you must it give a try and that too friendly and without any pressure on her.
hey guys..recently I met a cool guy in my campus who is actually my good friend’s bestie..I have problem when I coincedentally met him, I feel awkward n shy.I think I’ve fallen for him.but im not sure about his feeling towards me, eventhough he ever approach me before this.what should I do to make him closer to me? meanwhile, Im just hoping that we can be bit closer.I don’t have intention to make him as mine,I do responsible with my feelings, but sometimes I always see an end everytime I start to like someone..
Hey Honeybee, There are no tricks useful to attract any guy towards yourself. It’s very natural that if you love someone you would be shy and nervous in front of him or may behave insane but you have to give it a start. Try to start normal conversation, may be about similar interests and you can be good friends. And with your statements above, I guess its just attraction and you will able to handle your feelings soon. Good luck 🙂
thanx ruchi for the advice..its just sometimes i feel insane and too much awkward when i thinking of him..its such a terrible feeling..thanx anyway..:)
Thank you, Ruchi. I’ll let you know if we end up together. Wish me luck! 🙂
I think true is love is when fall in love with someone that love you back, love is something you can explain, think about that person, he/she is thinking about you. love is something special between, it something that’s a beautiful feeling between the two.You have watch your heart, Because you can love someone that don’t love you back. I was in three year relationship, with him. He did not love me , He was in love with his ex,that hurts. just saying don’t waste your time,trying make some love you. love come nature.
It happens to me, it is very hard..but the article is right, find other ways to he happy and keep it moving.
just love it …i think nw i will be able to live well ..without any expectation….moving on doesnt seems to be possible for nw bt yes loving in a postive way and that too without any expectation is !! loving him has given me so much strength and has made me a better person…with each day i feel i love him less …need to love him more !!
I am a girl.I am studying in college.I love another girl in my class.She also loves me too..Though we belong to the same class,we dont talk much in class because of our friends who are possessive over us.But once we get back home,we text and share everything.About 2 weeks back we had a fight and we dint text each other.And then she told me her schoolmate started texting her a month back and they just text each other and she told me they were just friends.But one day I saw her opening his email id and checking something in that.I dint ask her about it though.I felt kind of jealous.She even knows there are people after me.So just to make her jealous,I told her I keep texting my friend till 2 at night and she kept asking me who it was.But then I refused to tell her who!So everytime she texted me at 10,I used to tell bye and she thought I was texting someone else.Now she has gone home because we have got holidays.I tried texting her,but she doesnt reply that soon as she used to before.But when she is in hostel,she replies me immediately.I love her too much.I just dont know if she has lost interest in me or is she trying to play the game back on me.She generally does not text first.But still she sends me the good morning message as she has always been doing.Do you think I should get over her(I am obsessed with her now!) or should I talk to her?I even told her to stop textng that guy during class hours and she did stop!I told her how much I love her and she knows it.But i dunno for the past 2 days I feel she is avoiding me.She has a feeling I have better people around me because I used to tell her that way.But the truth is I love her and only her.How do I tell her!Everytime I am the one who texts first.I just need her!Should I leave her or tell her the truth that she is the most important for me?!I alwayz feel awkward to text first maybe because I disturb people.I need her and I want her to be mine.What should I do?Or should I even get ahead in my life forgetting her?!
Yes u r true … but to be pragmatic it is really difficult to try this, like in my case, my best and closest friend is a girl, we talk everyday, we text everyday. one day she called me and told me indirectly that i should never fall in love with her.. and without thinking i said yes. But at the next moment i was all in tears, somehow i ended my conversation and at that very moment i realised how much i love her… yes i love her from the core of my heart.. we r still good friends.. no best friends.. but what ails me and nails me is the fact that i can never get her.. atleast thats what i feel.. despite all my love.. all she sees in me is just a friend.. i am totally depressed and at the same time i find it very difficult to pretend that everything is fine with me….
Falling in love with your best friend is the best thing in this world. I love him with all my heart. I never felt the real meaning of falling in love till I met him. His voice, his presence, and everything about him make me so happy. He is so amazing. His heart has no price tag. I love every thing about him. No one in this world can take a place in my heart except him. I cannot find one fault about him. He is a perfect human being. Even if he gets angry there is mellow behind his anger. when he is happy his laughter and his joy gives my tears of happiness. I love him so much. Who ever he loves without a doubt I can love them too. He made me person to understand after all there are good people in this world. He comforts me when I am down. Every thing about him makes me so happy. His smile takes away all my hurts and pain. I feel like I won the biggest diamond but I cannot have it. He knows how much I love him. At times he is hurt in his own way. He pushed me away many times but we both cannot go away from each other. One day I have to go away from him. No matter how hard it may be. I love him with all my heart and without any expectations. An unconditional love means his happiness is my happiness.. God I love him. I never knew the meaning of a real love till I met him. He is my angel and my love of my life. He is my true love no one else can come close to me in my life. Only he has all the right. I adore him I respect him and I love him. But my life has to end without him. It hurts, it breaks my heart but at the end he has no choice. Only I know he will have me in his heart forever:). I thank god for him. I want the best for him. I want his dreams to be fullfiled. I hope if there is second life he will be mine and I will be his:)
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Hi everybody…
what happens when 2 persons married each one from his side, fall in love?
whatt happens when a man do everything to make the girl fall in love, and then, when everything is clear, he goes back…
when he approach and go back, approach and go back,,,, isnt this manipulation of feelings?
why someone can say: i love you, i miss you, but we can’t….
thank you for your answers..
Hey Neil,
If someone is married and fall in love with someone else, it’s not a sin. Sometimes it hard to love your spouse but you must clear things with them and find a way to save marriage otherwise move on.
If a boy is coming and going, then he is not sure what he wants and he is not worth entertaining again in life coz love is not a game.
I don’t get ur third question, what you mean by you can’t say? scared of expressing or something else?
hey Ruchi im in a bad situation since a long time would be great some advices from u but not here if u dont mind
Sure, U can mail me on [email protected].
I have known this girl for quie a while. She recently asked mw to go with her to a formal/dance that is coming up. I really liked thos girl last year but nothing came of it though we were still good friends. After she asked me to the formal we got talking again and we were getting more flirty with eachother.. Which never happened before. So we kwpt talking and before we knew it we both had very strong feelings for eachother. We went out a few times n each time was amazing! We both loved every minute it n it was hard for both of us to leave eachother. We have bwen like this for a while now and we live eachother so much. But basically she is a christian wheras i not.. We can’t be together because of it.. Her parents recently found this out aswell and told her she wasn’t allowed to see me anymore. We can’t even be friwnds because she isn’t even allowed to be friends with pwople who aren’t christian amd people who don’t go to the same type of church. We are both heartbroken and it’s extremely hard to move on becaise we are eachothers best friends we can’t stop talking to eachother.. And i feel like i can’t atop talking to her other reasons that i can’t mention. We don’t know how to deal with it all because we need ro move on but we can’t lose eachother as friends. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Im in love with my best friend who i’ve known for almost 5 years now but she only loves me like a brother. I believe she does have some feelings for me but she’s afraid of messing up our friendship. I don’t want to love her because i know she’s never going to let us even try but i can’t help having these feelings. She’s always in my thoughts and even in my dreams sometimes. I can totally see us together and happy like 15/20 years from now married with kids. How do i make the pain go away. I get depressed now every time i hear one of my favorite songs, “Let Me Love You” by Ne-Yo. Someone please tell me what to do.
P.S.- The reason i get depressed from that song is because it explains my feelings for her perfectly
i really enjoyed ur post,,u r r8,,,i will strt following ur steps,,,lets c wht hppns nxt
I truly love my ex who I left for someone else – I know I screwed up completely. We got back together but her kept throwing up the past time and time again and as a result we split. Subsequently he has had numerous relationships short lived – he is a total cad sleeping with women and then moving on. He texts me when he is with them reminiscing about the times we had together. He txt me recently asking me to marry him – whilst on date with his girlfriend for gods sake. He interferes with me relationships but he doesnt want me. I am in bits because I still love him. He is a total cad and I know he is playing with my heart. He is tearing me apart.
i hav certain feelings for a guy in ny college n m nt sure weder its a crush or love.
M in d 2nd year of mbbs n he is in PG 1rst year.
i always think if him n everytym i walk in d campus i wish i cud see him n i get so depressed wen i dnt gt t see him fr even day. N moreover i get so jealous wen i c him talking t any other girl.
N he probably doesnt even know i exist. N each tym i see him i wish he wud notice me n i jus cant stop blushing wen i get t see him.
plzzz do help me. m very confused.
Sushma, There is very thin line between love and crush. First thing to do is go and tell your feelings. May be you have good luck and if he is good boy, he won’t make fun of your feelings. Getting blushed, jealous, nervous are part of loving someone, so I would say enjoy the moment and do express your feelings.
im agree with u on some of ur points , im loving someone i cant have, but i never thought of finding someone else instead of him
he is my friend and he has a gf , i know he will never love me back cuz we r just friends
its so hurt to see him together with his gf , i may sounds jealous but plz think on my view
i feel so hurt when he doesn’t reply me, once he text me that he was sick and i couldn’t control my tear , i cried cuz he was sick? , that’s crazy , am i that madly falling in love ?
and im sure this isn’t crush , cuz i have crush on some other ppl before they just gone after month or week but this is different!
i miss him every second of a day , every time , make me wanna cry whenever i thought ab him , sometimes make me smile also
i never wanted to love him , we first met as friends he treats me really nice, we hang around together , text everyday , talk on phone everyday made me madly fall in love like now
but for him.. it didn’t, i might b the one for him to text or talk when hes bored.
we r working together as partners and he needs me , mayb thats why he treats me nice but im tried my best cuz i love him a lot
and i cant tell him that i love him cuz it will destroy our friendship and if he knows we cant even talk or meet like now
once i deleted all his photo and thousand of long msgs but after that day i feel sad and regret
what should i do ??? i cant let this go and keeping this feeling really hurt me a lot 🙁
i have never felt love before and on a recent trip i took, i finally. met a long time friend face to faxe. ive always felt something for him but until i met him face to face wasnt until my heart felt a sense of emotion i have never felt before. he smiles we have wonderful memlories, but i am not. sure though i think he only seems me as just a. friend. its been a 7 year long distance friendship, but the beginning of something im not sure its love yet. i cant stop thinking about him, i miss him now, i relive our. moments together, and cant say i didnt cry after a happy conversation with him knowing i dont have him face to face at. any given time. i try to think positively, i try to make the best out of what i have, and i dearly try to not expect anything in return, its hard. its hard not to expect a reply to an email sent over a month ago, but when you randomly talk on the phone everything seems perfect with cheer in his voice, its confusing. he is in a country over 7000 miles away but my heart calls out to him. i dont know how it started and i donf know how it will end. right now as i read in an online article, “i want to blow my 30th candle holding his hand”. its only 5 months away and though he has never been here, i wish by a miracle or surprise like a prince in a fairy tale he comes as a surprise and takes my breath away. i slowly blow my. 30th candle no longer wishing but thanking God for making my wish come true. I will not hold back from loving someone else in the meantime if it comes, but one for now can only hope.
I’m a 21 years old male from Bareilly. I love my best friend from about 5 years. I proposed her last year but she told me that she was in a relation with one of my friends. And we continued to be friends. Yeah, her boyfriend, got somewhat angry that time. I never forced her for anything. Yet, I never stopped loving her and she knows it. She cares for me and suggesting me not to love her all the time.
Everytime when something goes wrong or she becomes upset, she calls me, b’coz she trusts me.
One day, about 3 months ago, she told me that she feels that her bf is cheating on her. She was very upset about it and need a friend. Obviously I was there. Now I’m helping her with all that I have and as a friend but something in me still wants some more.
I don’t know if she can ever forget him and try for another (hell, none other than me)
The guy i love is 4 years younger than me… I really do not know what is in his mind… It has been a year since the day i know him… I think was really love at first sight… It so weird… Knows i love him more than anyone else but he just keep saying he doesnt like me when he is always there when i need someone to talk to…. Now i just lost… What to do… He just want to remain as friends…. This the first time i crazily in love w a guy… 🙁
OMG! i never thought there are people out there; who feel the same way that i do. i have a chinese frend since hS; we clearly had a spark when were together. when our frends started to notice our closeness that’s the time i started feeling awkward about me and him. then when prom night came; he dance with his crush i feel happy for him and after one night when i call him for a chat, he told me that his crush ask him ” if him and me are a couple” he clearly said NO. but when i heard, i feel so awful inside. I feel that im falling for him and thats a NO-NO. so i started keeping my distance and he notice it he got confuse…but i couldnt careless coz he told me that his going to china to study in his college. so i dont wana got stuck in corner. we didnt speak to each other after that; then i was suprise when i got into college he was in the same school as i am “is this what they call destiny” my frends say so…we rebuild our frendship in college then our professor ask him what is the status of our relationship he said “No special relationship at all” what a jerk! i drop him off again n we didnt communicate again after 5yrs later we had our own life. destiny brought us bak together we started dating as frends…his asking me if i have chinese girl frends that i can mix up wit him, of course i sed NO…coz he wants to have his own family soon. I really thought i could handle this feelings of just a frend but deep down how i wish we could be more…i tot destiny is giving me the open road to finally tell him what i feel and so i did when he ask me if i iike him i sed YES and he sed he like me too; but if ONLY if im chinese but im not… my whole worlds torns apart… i feel stupid in hoping that he will see me the other way around but he didnt… and now his married to a chinese girl and he even invited me on his wedding…
Did i Go?! definitely NO!… my bff told me i should coz im just being so overly dramatic about it, we are frends after all… but for me knowing that he knows how i feel about him… dont u think it will be STUPID if i still gone to his wedding… seeing him happy and me lonely and alone.
hi,
I need serious help from all of you. I am married and have a kid.I used to work in a company where i met a girl.we were good friends initially we have started texing and calling.That girls had a boyfriend in she was in relationship too.suddenly we have fallen in love and it seems like she love me the most.but we knew that we can never be together.I have stoped talking to her and left the office and she has joined a new office where she found another guy and she started loving him.I am feeling very jelous and her family does not want me to contact her and she says she love me a lot yet she has to sacrifice since here family will never allow to get married.I can not sop my feelings for here and hoping i could kil myself…i can not stop loving her and feeling like i can not survive without her. Its been many days we are not in contact i miss her every day.Please suggest me what to do?
Regards
Maddy
Hey Maddy,
First of all, suicide is never a solution for anything only cowards do that.
Second thing, you have a kid it means that you have a partner too then you don’t you try to revive that relationship. It would be much better than trying to die because of a girl who is not stable in any relationship.
“Earlier she had a bf, then she found you then she changed office there she found someone else and after that also she says she loves you.”
Come on, this girl is just keeping you as an option. And you are falling for her, cause you are feeling lonely. Try to rethink about this relation, it will take time but I would suggest to concentrate on your kid and his mother… otherwise your as well as that kid’s life will also ruin.
Hi Maddy 🙁
So sorry your suffering i know how you feel.
I really dont know what the solution is, i wish i did as i would feel happier too.
xx
Dear Kate,
Thanks for the understanding the feeling.I am trying to recover myself from such situation since i know i am the only person who need to handle such situation. no suggestion can help you if u love the person a lot and there is only one solution and that seems impossible “let the person fly if she wants” do not contact change your name consider that the person who used to lover her or him is no more alive ..we all know suicide is never a solution but its suffering is also kinda suicide, i wish c could understand yet let the person be happy without you knowing u are the best c could ever have.Once a cheater always a cheater..
Thanks a lot ruchi,
I am really grateful for the kind of advice.Yes i am trying to forget her asap i can.
she only used me and and i am only focusing on the kid at the moment.I used to love that girl a lot but i will forget her.she took the advantage since she knew my wife does not love me and we have some problems and she started showing her care and affection on me and she wanted to marry me but then a guy enters and things were changed. now i have stopped doing text n calls to her and want her to feel that how much i have loved her.I will not do anything which can ruin my kids life yet it was a lesson for me i will never forget…seriously i was fool that i love this girl and spent my precious time.but i can not forget her.i feel lonely but i can survive for the kid.God Bless her for the new partner.