Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. I know many of you think that love hurts a lot, partners are not trustworthy, they don’t understand your feelings or only you love them they don’t. If you feel all these negative things then please read this each and every word of it, with a practical approach. I am sure, it will help you a lot to enjoy your love rather than regretting it. This is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone, falling in love with someone you can’t have.
The most challenging phase of love is when you fall in love with someone, whom you can’t get or not even think of getting him/her in your life. It hurts sometimes, and you even feel very painful when you miss that person. Loving someone is not in your control, it’s just a feeling and tough to get over it.
Now, it’s up to you that how you take this love in your life, with a positive approach or negative approach? Having a negative approach has kept on crying for that person, who don’t take you more than a friend and not even notice your tears. Another approach is to take the feeling positively and enjoy the moment to the fullest.
How to be in love when another person when another person don’t love you back:
- Think in a positive way:
If you think that providing tips is very easy and applying them is very difficult than just for five days try to apply these tips with a positive approach. No tips can make your life better unless you want it to be better. If you will keep sympathy with yourself and expecting same with others, you won’t able to enjoy the feeling of true love.
- Expectations:
True Love is always unconditional, then why you start expecting that the person should love you back?
If you are expecting to return the love back as much as you love him/her then it’s not true love. Why can’t you just love that person? Love is neither a business nor a give and takes relationship. How you can think of love when you have so many expectations. Even if he/she doesn’t reply to your text messages, emails or phone calls, why you get hurt? You want to convey your feelings, and you did that. Don’t ever expect that the person will respond it back otherwise it will hurt you for sure.
- Don’t force them to love you:
The main reason for not getting the person you love is that they don’t love you or might be committed to someone else. Think once from his/her point of view, you might not be the one he/she is looking for. Everyone has their choice, and they have all rights to choose the one they find interesting and loving to them. You can never force anyone to fall in love with you.
The day you will stop crying for your love, you will start enjoying it. If you find it tough to get over the person you love then waits for my next article for tips to get over someone you love.
But yes, the best advice would move on. Life is short, and there is no point in waiting and falling in love with someone you can’t have. Instead, find someone special, who completes you.
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you can’t be “just friends” with some one you LOVE from your deepest corner of your heart…. but instead we can just think that this is what is meant to be… and try to let that person free and be happy to think that person is happy without you… all of us wants to see that smile of our love… we can’t forget our true love but but we also can’t see them with someone else..
can you just answer me… when a girl says” i would be yours in your next life but this life i can love you but can’t accept u …you are too late.. and she also admits she loves me but she can’t be mine”…. what should i do in such a situation?????
Hey Arjit,
That girl is totally not in love. I guess she is just telling you to make you feel good but there are few things in you which she dont like and can’t ignore.
Try to keep a distance from that girl until you move on with your life and strong enough to live happy even when she is not with you. It’s tough but later it will make your life easier.
HELP me please! I am going mad. I am completely in love with my best friend for the last 1.5 years. We live together so I see her every day and we work together too. She is the most incredible woman I have ever known in my life and It is making me so unhappy. My heart breaks every day when her BF comes over and I ahve to see them together. She is my life and I just want to be with her. I think I would rather end my life than live a life without her. Her BF wants to move in with us but this is the worst thing that could happen. Noone understands me and how hard this is and I often am nasty to her when things get too much and I cant handle it. I hate myself for this. I know that people will say i need to move out etc but i cant bare to be away from her for 1 minute 🙁
Hey Kate,
You need to be strong. You can’t force anyone to love you and you need to move on with your life. Try to find new friends and keep yourself busy with other things you like. It’s tough but gradually it will work.
Ok this is not really my situation. Has anyone ever been in this situation? I have known this guy for 2 years and i dont have his phone number or anything. I hardly ever talk to him excep for the fact that he is president of our class and i am vp and we have to. I was in a play with him and i thought i would get to know him more ,but absoluty nothing happened. I really want to get know him more because he is completly and totally out of my leage he has his group and friends and totally doent need me acting like an idiot evry time he is around ( wich is all the time). Plus every time i try to talk to him i freeze and sound like an idiot i pretty sure he thinks i hate him because i always aviod him. It has been 2 years and i really think should be over this by now ,but i am not. I just want to get over him so that when we happen or need to have a conversation about somthing i dont flipout. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey Melly,
I am not feeling bad for you, actually its kind of sweet.. it’s first step towards love. It’s totally OK to freeze in front of guy whom you love and act weird. Here is one thing, try to talk to him, instead of avoiding him. Once you are comfortable, you can let him know how you feel for him. Make sure you don’t force him to love you back.
It’s been 2 years gal, he wont kill you knowing that you love him. If he makes fun of you, he is not good guy. So atleast let him know.
You might not be his type, but then also give it a try he might looking for a girl like you or atleast a good friend. Miracle happens 🙂
If you need any advice you can contact us anytime.
I nee help!
I’ve likedthia lad for agessssss and weve fell out and argued so many times because he would hurt me and screw me over! Since I’ve liked him hea got with this girl 3 times now! And we’d always fall out over it and not speak to each other for ages! I’ve been out with him once for a week and he meant so much to me:( but it wasnt working out and we fell out again after that but made up once again! I last saw him in July and we met up several times! But hadnt seen each other since even though he lives down the road, I can’t get over him and I say I hate him but I can’t and my friends don’t like him either as they say he’s wrong for me and always going to hurt me! For the 3rd time he got with the same girl but we fell out q s it was a massive fall out as he got his best girl mates on me and we didn’t speak for over a month or two I then saw him for th first time since July on Monday and he looked at me and looked away! I still really like him I then saw him the next day with his mates and I was with mine and he asked where we going but we ignored him and left (we hadn’t spoke for ages) he started to speak to me again and we got close like nothing ever happened.. We met up the next day with friends and it was the best and cutest day I’ve had in ages and I can’t even explain it but we flirted alot! We spoke all night after we went home after being with him for like all day and then today we spoke in the morning as he spoke to me and then he was with his girlfriend so we didn’t speak until he then spoke to me again at night and called me cute and stuff because I remember loads about him I dont know what to so because I love him so much and I miss him and I wish I could be with him eveyday but I can’t I just feel like crying because it’s not fair and we have so many memories. Please help:'(
I’ve fallen in love with someone..He actually asked me out a year and a bit ago, and I turned him down. Now, it’s as if it’s completely the other way round, we talk to eachother nearly every day but I don’t think he likes me the way he did before. I hate asking people out, and confessing my feelings to people, but, if he even did like me again which he probbaly doesn’t, I doubt he will get the confidence to ask me out again, seeing as I turned him down before.
Hey T,
When it comes to love you need to keep your ego aside and it’s really a bad habit that you can’t confess your feelings. That guy asked you out earlier and now he is just trying to be your friend but somewhere inside he might love you. He is hiding his feelings coz he dont want to ruin your friendship.
Anyways, try to change your attitude and ask him out. Such attitude is really bad for long term relationships.
I met this nice girl one and half year back. I got the feeling that she liked me too, but I was not sure whether it’s as a good friend or more than a friend. After few months, I expressed my feelings, to which she replied; she doesn’t believe in love. she liked me too, but her family will never accept because of caste issue, though she didn’t know what future has for her and her parents might change there views as her time is running out for marriage considering her age 30. My age is also 30. I accepted what she said with a little hope. After that, we shared many good moments, started building trust for each other, I supported her in any situation whenever she needed me and eventually we became best friends. After few months, she got good marriage proposal and she accepted it. I cried for losing her and she cried, feeling guilty for hurting my feelings. I asked her, what-if in future she realize that she has same feeling, to which she replied she will confess to someone. I accepted her decision, never hurt her and continued to love her unconditionally. After a month, she broke her engagement because some horoscope issues. After that for few months I started noticing more care from her, I never raised the old topic again as I didn’t want to lose her friendship, but it was like she started feeling something. She knew and still knows, I still feel for her. She accepted that we share some special bonding and she respect my feelings and trust me so much than anyone, but can’t be with me. Recently, she got engaged with someone and after sharing the news, she said, she is one of the reason of my pain and she won’t be alright thinking that for her whole life. According to her, marriage is just a stage of life for her. It’s hard, but I’ve started accepting reality, not thinking anything about why it happened and I’m happy for her. I can’t hate her for what she decided for her life. Now for me, there are few questions which I keep asking myself but not getting answers. People said, true loves means, you need to love someone unconditionally and without any expectations. I tried doing that and still doing it. But if that is the case, how one can move on? I am not saying, I can’t move on.. I am moving on, but I believed in true love since I got mature and it’s not easy to left behind what you really believe, because something not worked out. If two people share such a good bonding, than why caste issue still major issue in our country. I’m sure if caste issue was not there, she would have accepted my proposal since long and she too said that. But that’s not the point here. My point is, if feeling is true, why such issue blocks someone to follow the heart. Many times, we say; follow your heart; which is not easy for everyone; but if someone tries to follow it; people will say it’s not practical or you are not moving on. The care I felt so far from her was more than a friend and sometime you just feel it, but it’s fact that after her engagement; she has someone else shoulder to cry upon for her issues and we can’t discuss the things together, we used to discuss so openly when she was single. I am still her best friend and she is mine. And we both don’t want to lose our friendship. We work together ans see each other daily and No, it’s not painful. We are just happy for each other and we both are not thinking or discussing the issue, which raise sadness. Painful is when we are not together. It’s month now and I am not hurt or sad any more and not even thinking to hurt her or hate her. Sometime I got reminded of the questions I’ve mentioned and it felt very bad, so I’m trying not to think anything. Many of you might think, my points are not valid or she is not following her heart. But I still respect her decision and care for her as a friend, and we are trying hard not to lose our friendship as in such time, it’s easy to hurt each other. I am losing my believe in god and love or may be I’ve already lost my believe. Where our life will go, only time has answer. Just sharing it here, if it help someone to move on.
I’m in love with this girl. She is sweet and caring. We now have become best friend. Recently, one of my friends had just told her that I have like her for 3 years. she was shock upon hearing that. My friend told her not to let me know that she already knew that I like her. She always promises my friend that she will not avoid me. Now whenever I talk to her, I feel very awkward, I feel like she is putting on a show trying to not let me notice that she already knew I like her. Now I feel that she is very fake towards me. I really don’t like this feeling. I want to be close with her just like the old times where we would share our problem with each other. I feel like confessing to her right now so she would not need to continue acting but I’m scared that confessing to her would make things worse. Can someone please give me some advice, tell me what should I do next.
Just tell her… in such situation .. one day.. you have to tell her… why not now? be gentle and do not expect anything in return. that’s the only way to get courage to speak to discuss this point. You can’t hold it for long and there is no right time. Tell her, even if her reply is negative, be gentle… you won’t loose any thing and will sleep happily in night …
i fell in luv vid a guy who happns to b my dad’s childhood frn’s son v stay in d same apartments i luv him since 3 yrs last year i proposed him but he rejectd me.i dont no wat d actual reasn was bt he told dat m much younger to him(7 yrs)last year itself he left to the USA for his higher education.his mom keeps cuming to my hme every day since he left i felt lyk dieing.i tried to move on but i couldnt in december 2012 he came to hyderabad for a month the time i saw him i realised dat i luv him a lot and can never forget him.i again proposed but he said he has a galfnd but ven i asked one of his frns he said dat he doest hav a gal frn at all.plzzz help me out he is now in d usa i really want him
Hey Preety,
Sorry to say but it’s better you move on..I know it’s tough but you have to understand that you can force anyone to love you.
If he doesn’t have GF and he still saying you that he have one just because he too want you to move on. When you are in love you always hope that one day.. you will get your lover. But reality is quite different.
Infact, you have a plus point that he is not in India thus you don’t need to face him or talk to him often… find new friends… make yourself busy in other stuff and most important be positive that you can move on. Whenever his thoughts click.. start doing stuff you love or talk to your friends about something else.
Hope it helps.
the marriage not even 2 years but now he so often say i dont love you eveytime we argue . 3 days before our wedding day i couch him talk in ym with stranger since there i feel broken and never trust him anymore , thsi is my false i treat him bad yeah im but what can i do that Yahoo chat keep remind me , now so often he said he not love me he not in love with me anymore , but one day really 2 days ago i took 8 parasetamol each 500. he even want to leave me coz he sid dont want see anyone die and get blame . but well all fine after he ask me to throw the pill and clean my stomach , i say thank you to save my life and i say too how if i really die , he said I WILL DIE . i need help really . he ask me to stop smoke but he never help me for that just wnt me to stop , he enjoy watching star tack than Make love with me . i dont know again , this guy never go out always home with his pc he is teacher , match and computer guy . sometime im thinking this how computer guy they dont care bout anything else except they computer ? i was not wear hijab since married his mum want me to wear it . i found my self ugly and not sexy anymore. helppppppppp
Eva,
First thing I noticed is that you are not positive about this relationship. If you want your relationship to work you need to put efforts to it.
Another thing, lack of self esteem because of which you get into arguments with him and don’t trust him. Love yourself cause he loves you… HE SAID HE WILL DIE, IF YOU DIE…THAT’S LOVE SWEETHEART. You just need to feel that.
You found him talking to a stranger before two years…. grow up and have a broad thinking… he was just talking it doesn’t mean he dont love you.
Do you know, you have expectations like a teen age girl… he should bring flowers for me.. Say I love you everyday… go on Romantic Dinners.. etc. This is your way of showing love, his way of showing love is totally different.. for him caring for you and understanding your stupid ( Like dying ) behaviour is the way to show love.
You might have seen those “Cool Dudes” in your life and thus comparing your hubby with him. Such guys hardly care about their wife and not even trust worthy. This guy is responsible and ready to die for you. What else you want?
If you think he is too much into computers or star trek than make a friendly environment at home… Make a special dinner for him.. Show that you love him.. have a smile when he comes home or near you…
Because you get in arguments with him, he starts ignoring you.. once you will start thinking positive and stay happy, you can make him happy too…
And only cowards try to suicide.. life is really beautiful.. there are people around who are in worst situation than you. So, don’t take life so lightly…
I guess thats too much of advice but you really need this… If you need to talk you can mail us via contact form.
Tnx 4 al ur written it al proven applyin, help wit this in love wit a girl who keep postponiny reply n refuse gift i send 2 her n know avoidin person i sumtym send 2 her. Alws limiting time or not giv attention wen visitin her. Nevertheless my love 4 her keep continue although source told me she keepin her time 4rm her last relationship, which hard 4 me 2 bliv bcos is gettin 2 2yrs i hav b after her.
I really like this guy. Was seeing him for a few weeks but I failed to tell him that I have HVB before sex. He is really mad now and properly won’t talk to me again. I know it was all my fault and I don’t deserve to be happy if he really catches it. I know I should forget it and move on because what has done cant never be undone. But I feel so guilty and regret. I should have taken my condition more serious and careful. I was with my ex over a year and he has never infected and I stupidly thought it would be ok if we used protection. Sometimes I do forget I have this cause I’m not on any treatment at the moment. I know there chances he will never forgive me. I know don’t what to do. I just want a peace of mind but maybe I will never get over this stupid mistake.
Hi Liz,
Don’t you think you are taking yours and others life too lightly. You did a mistake and now you can’t go back in past to change it.
It’s ok that you are regretting it but now its time to learn from your mistake and never do such thing again. First of all there are chances that your disease can be cured… so go to doctor and cure yourself. Secondly, now you don’t have anything to do to get him and for peace of mind, time will heal that.
I was stupid enough to start having strong feelings for a married man. There is no future for us and he has been respectable when it comes to his vows. We talked, I know he wasn’t happy. But him telling me about his relationship was only in the beginning, we became fast friends and talked and laughed about life and having fun in general and rarely talked about his wife. He was beginning to feel the same things for me. I know there is something special between us. But dammit he is married, so I have stopped all communication with him, and he hasn’t tried to contact me either. But I really miss my time with him. Not sure if it is love or just the fact that we were good friends that felt completely comfortable with each other, like I’ve known him for years. One day we began to cross the line with probably the most amazing kisses ever, they just happened, but we stopped. I don’t want to be a home-wrecker and I could never trust him if he left her for me. *sigh* It just sucks….caring about someone you can’t be with, thinking about him daily even though I haven’t talked to him in more than 2 months. But I’m proud of my decision to walk away. Now how do I get over him? How do I stop thinking about him. I’ve been on dates, but I compare everyone to how comfortable I was with him. The undeniable attraction and ease in which we were friends, even the first time we met, we just clicked. I haven’t experienced that with anyone else. They way he looked at me…. We were only friends for 2 months, i haven’t talked to him for a longer period than what our friendship lasted. Why can’t I get him out of my mind? I’m not a kid either, I’m a grown with grown woman. Jeez I feel silly. I’ve never felt like this before.
Hey Bubba,
When you fall in love, nothing matters. But you are strong enough as you are ready to move on and not silly to be in relationship which has no future.
It’s really tough to move when you have some special connection. Right now, don’t force yourself much. Take it easy.. have fun time with friends and make yourself busy and do all things which makes you happy. And most important don’t compare others with him, otherwise you won’t able to love anyone else in your life.
Hello,
I am with a girl from past couple of months. I love her very much. She also like me. Previously I thought that she loved me because the way she talked about us and our future and all. She never show committment but the way we were together was more than a GF, BF relation.She used to ask me for each and every thing and she shared all of her personal and family problems. We had made out many times. She couldnt sleep without talking to me. She had a previous relation, she always used to say that she couldnt love someone else like she did. I respect her a lot for her loyalty and feelings, that was the main reason I fell for her. But she already said that she dont have feelings for me, I thought may be she is confused so I sould give her some more time. Suddenly few weeks back she said that she started liking someone. I said ok if you like someone than you go for him. She always used to ask me that dont you feel bad if I am talking to that guy. I said no… I wont, Its your life you can do anything. I felt very bad but I didnt show up. I thought that I should be the same as before may be someday she will feel for me. We usually have those stupid fights for not picking the call and she use to fight when I am busy and cant give her time. One day few of my friends saw her with that guy late night walking on the street. I really felt very bad beacause all my friends were asking me that , you did a lot to her and why she is now roaming with other guy late night. I asked her and she first said that its her life and she can walk with any guy, she didnt give me committment then why I am feeling bad. I lost my control and scold her badly. I promised my self that I wont see her face in my whole life. She met me and said that there is nothing between them, that guy is just her friend. There is nothing from his side too (but previously she said that she has feelings for him, a guy who is just in her friend group and doesnt know a shit about her). She said that I mean a lot to her and there is an importance of mine in her life, she started crying…… I said, please forgive me. I am all broken, I dont need any kind of relation between us. Whatever you want to do you can do but I cant take this pain more. Please leave me alone…….She asked to meet me again but I refused, she said she wont go home all night if i didnt meet her. I didnt go but I confirmed that she didnt go home and was with her friends that night. Right now I am not calling her……..I am really fu**ked up. Dont know what shall I do. Many times I have tried that I wont go whenever she calls but every time I ran like a deer to meet her whenever she needed me. I really love her and she knows it very well.
I need a suggestion from her perspective. I know my side very well.My friends said that she used me. If I am just a time pass for her than I will try my best to forget and forgive her.
Hey Ankur,
After reading about that girl I would say she treated you as a rebound partner. She was lonely and can’t get her ex out of her mind and thus in need of rebound partner. You were there for her physically and mentally which makes her feel satisfied.
You are a strong guy and I guess you took a perfect step by ignoring her. Stick to that decision.
” Not going home whole night if you don’t meet her” sensible girls don’t do that.. she seems to be an immature girl who don’t want she wants and how to handle relationship problems.
According to me, you must forget her and I am sure you will able to move on soon.
Hi Ruchi,
Thanks a lot to reconfirm my decision. It was really hard for me to ignore her but as I realized the truth now I am doing good with my life. She still consider me as a best friend but I know my limits now.
Anytime Ankur 🙂
Ruchi u know more than thing or two about relationship. Bingo!!! Ur instance which u quoted abt text and mail was bang on. Would like to read more of your stuff.
Please help me out how can I acces to ur writing.
Please keep ur good work going.
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Hey Ruchi,
My story is quite tragic. I love a girl but she already have an another guy in her life. I love her from the bottom of my heart & can do anything for her. Not even a single moment in 24 hrs everyday I can stop thinking about her. I know that it’s not good even being known with the fact that she already have an emotional engagement with someone else, I went down in her love. I work in an MNC & She is a colleague of mine. A few day’s ago, I even said in front of her emotionally that ” It hurts me even if an Ant bite you”. Listening this, she felt doubt & eventually after a day, she changed her behavior (She was good on that day I said her this sentence) towards me & started being apart & ignoring.
What should I do now? Should I clearly talk to her & express my love towards her? Remember that I love her truly & can do anything for her happiness. What I suppose is, I should at least let her know my feelings.
Please I need your help.
Hey Varun,
I guess she is loyal towards her bf and don’t want to cheat on him that’s why when she came to know that you have feelings for her she backed off… You need to take it slow because that girl just expecting your friendship. Sometimes you need to understand that all prayers are not answered in “Yes” and it goes same here.
Wait for a while before letting her know your feelings… she is not ready yet. Give her space and when you think she is ready to listen what you feel about her then tell her without getting too emotional otherwise there are chances that you might lose her friendship too. Sometimes good girls want to keep a distance from boys who loves them because they don’t like complications.
Anyways best luck and try to move on.
Hey Ruchi,
How are you?
I understood. But the problem is she knows that I love her. I asked her a day before whether she knows her name with whom I love? She said yes I have doubt but she is not telling her own name in front of me. But she is just professional & behaving normal with me as the others do. I’m placing every true effort that I can to make her feel loved me but nothing is working. I helped her in office to get rid of official problems with colleagues by handing over few commands so that no one can command her. In many occasions I made her happy but did not work at all.
Problem is whenever she have any doubt on me she goes out & ask her boyfriend to what should be the next step that I need to take. That means her operator is her boy friend. What can I do to make her understand that I love her a lot?
hi any updates?
i will always suggest keep loving her
I LOVE ONE GIRL OF MY CLASS .
I AM IN LOVE WITH HER FOR 2 YEARS. SHE NEVER TALK TO ME IN 2 YEARS.
I REALIZE SHE IS NOT INTRESTED IN ME.
BUT STILL I LOVE HER JUST LIKE ANYTHING
I ALWAYS PRAY FOR HER THAT SHE WILL GET GOOD HUSBAND.
I HAVE DECIDED I WILL NEVER MARRY.
ON HER BIRTHDAY SHE GAVE CHOCOLATE.TO CLASSMATES SHE DIDNT GAVE ME BUT WHEN SHE GAVE IT TO MY FRIEND ..THEN I GET IT FROM MY FRIEND..
I CANT EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL..
I HAVE MAKE THIS CHOCOLATE AS MY PRO. PIC AND I WILL NEVER FORGET THIS..I HAVE NOT EATEN IT YET AND PROBABLY NEVER WILL..
I LOVE HER SO BAD THAT I HAVE NO WORDS.TO EXPLAIN..
AS SHE IS NOT INTRESTED IN ME I DONT TALK TO HER BECAUSE SHE DONT LIKE.
AND I WANT TO SEE HER HAPPY..NIT SAD..
I KNOW ..SHE DONT WANT ME..
BUT SHE IS EVERYTHING TO ME.
AND SHE WILL NOT GET A LOVER LIKE ME IN HER LIFE..100% SURE ABOUT THAT…
THING IS THAT I CANT ERASE HER FROM MY MIND AND PROBABLY NEVER WILL
It seems youre a little boy, i been there, theres two things you can do 1…dont do anything and be like you are now
Second tell her how you feel even if she doesnt want you you will feel better and be able to focus on other girl who may love you , remeber that always is not good to fall in love with someone that does not want you, even if it hurts
But I just can’t stop thinking but her, the more I tried to forget her, the less I see. Gosh!!! Its seems I have been caste a spilt. We were friends the time I proposed to her, she accepted but then she said to me that she doesn’t feel love. damn I love her so much and I might go crazy just for her. Please I someone to help me.
in the world no true love in humans heart. they are all selfished love only hav. no one to believe the true love to encourage and live for the person. its all rumour
this is simply not true. Although there are many closed hearts in the world, there are many open hearts as well. Give what you desire and it will come to you. Open your heart and other open hearts will be attracted into your life.
I think in falling in love with someone who is about to get married. What should i do i feel like she wants someone with me i dont know if its just my imagination. Should i let it go kr try before she is taken forever?
Devin,
You must go and ask her directly that she loves you or not. This is not time to imagine anything..If she loves you then you both to decide what would be your next step.
I no this girl nd i’ve never talk to her befor wat shld i do.
I love a grl she is brahman n bcz of caste prblm she cnt mrry me…..i dnt knw wht should i do to marry her..plz tell me smtng..i cnt live without her..
Hey Gagan,
Just because of caste don’t let her go.. If you both love each other and ready to spend life together then talk to yours and her parents. There might be chances that they might convince with you. If you won’t try you gonna regret your whole life.
HeY,
I have a big problem there is this girl who I have loved for the past 3 years and I didn’t know she had feelings for but on friday She told me she was prego and I said congrats I hope you and your bf have a happy and safe future, I will always love you, she said I wish you have told me sooner and I asked why and she said because I had feelings for you a few times and when you told me you don’t like me anymore I gave up, but I still have feelings for you, I asked how strong they were and she said strong enough that I want to be with you but Can’t,
I Know that I should just let it be and to what is right and just let her have a future with her bf but all weekend I have been thinking about her and how much I love her I don’t know what to do?
please help,
Luke
Hey Luke,
Sorry to say but move on. She said “I can’t”, it means you are not on first place in her priority list. So be practical and try to forget her.
Hey Ruchi,
I love a girl who is my best friend.I accidently confessed infront of her that i love her when she asked me to swear her.She has many times asked me if i get hurted by his behaviour.She feels guilty as i love her a lot and she is not returning that love to me.Everytime she repeats that SHE CAN NOT LOVE ANYONE but i l have a special place in her heart which no one can take.She confesses that i do too much for her and values that.She knows that i love her a lot.I am evern handling a one sided relationship with her but she repeats everytime that she can not love anyone in this world.She cries when someone insults me.She says she would die if i broke her trust as she trusts me more then herself.Her friends say she too loves me but isn’t ready to accept the truth.We talk a lot over phone late nights.She shares her each nad every problem with me.She feels secure with me.I really get confused many time because of her behaviour that if she really loves me from inside and just want to see my loves’ limit for her or is really a stubborn?Does it really happens that someone may fall in love but won’t accept that?Most importantly Does she loves me?(Additional info:she even gave me her no. ,we chat on FB a lot,There are rumours in our school about us but we both deny infront of others,She never shares the moments with others that we spent together,Most interestingly her name is Ruchi too!! Please help me!!)
Hey Abhishek,
“She can’t love anyone in this world”…Why so? she had a bad breakup or something else. She cares for you so much and still don’t want to be in relationship. I guess she either just want to be your good friend and escaping from love feeling coz she is scared of commitment.
Abhishek its kind of tough to advice, specially when she is saying she can’t love anyone. If she had bad breakup then she dont want to get hurt again. I would say, give her time and gradually she will realize what she wants from you.
Best luck 🙂
Hey Ruchi,
A million thanks for replying.No she never had a breakup.Infact she hasn’t been in any sort of relationship at all.She doesn’t believe in love thats why she says so.She says I am the only boy thats so close to her.She has nowadays started to value my love.When I say I love you to her in her hard times and support her,she says that how can someone be so good and also says she doesn’t deserves my love.This is ridiculous!I don’t understand what does this “deserving love” means!I have already told her that I don’t want her to be my GF.All I want is she herself whom I can pour my love upon.She gets pained by hearing all this.Many times she asks me if I really love her!She says she feels secure in my company.She asks me to never leave her alone.If she doesn’t loves why such reactions?Please help!You are my only hope!
Hey Abhishek,
Ok! you need to convince her that Love is not a bad thing…in fact it’s the sweetest feeling. I wonder how people stay away from love. In her case, she is not ready for commitment but she do have feelings for you. Take help of her friends and talk with her directly that why she can’t treat you as a boyfriend especially when she needs you by her side always.
Hope things work for you. Best luck 🙂
Hey Ruchi,
Many many thanks to you!Thanks a lot for your advice.Surely I will do what you have said.May god bless you!
Anytime Abhishek, May be you consider to make her join our Facebook Page. She will start believing in love.:)
Helpful but not true love is the most powerful thing in all our lives. Love can not be controlled. But it can be broken. If the person you love doesn’t love you back you have to come to grip with your self and get over it. If you love someone you can feel them. You think about them all the time and you should never stop. Let your self run wild for love is the one thing in life that can truly bring happiness to are hearts.
I have a question but what if you love the person too much and he also loves you but he lives far away and he is a little older than you but you can’t lett go
Hello Ruchi,
I already read your article about Falling In love with someone you can’t have, can i ask what should i do? Im a hotel worker, i m so in love with our executive chief, when we are in the hotel he is always smiling and staring at me, but the times comes, now his in canada, i don’t now how can i tell him how much i love him,what should i do?now we are far apart..
Hey Mary,
Distance really don’t matter, there are lots of ways to contact. If you love him and want a serious relationship then its you must express your love.
Its tough to propose your boss/colleagues but you should not miss the chance, even he might be feeling same for you. Best luck 🙂
i love a guy from 2 years.he is my classmate . i myself did friendship with him n bacame his best friend till yet.. i told all my feelings to dat boy. but dat boy doesnt love me at all. he says that m not a beautiful gl. n says that he will mary to a beautiful gl only. whenever any beautiful gl comes in his contact a feel too much jealous. many tims i cry. many times i feel lonliness. i cant even think to live without him. each day v chnt for a long tim.. v share each othrs things n r hapy to b friend. but what i expexct is too much different from him, i any how want dat boy as my life partner. plz suggest me how can i get him. or should i forget my all expectations about him.
Dipti,
It’s better not to expect anything from that guy. He is not worth for you if he is only behind beautiful faces. He treats you as friend so just be like a friend. Don’t get to much involve with him and if you can’t control your feelings/emotions then better stop talking or chatting with him. Otherwise, you will be the one who will suffer.
hey
I need some advice on a situation I am in. can anyone help?
Whats your problem Andy?
I’m in love with my best friend.He has a girlfriend and i know that.I have known him only for nine months n i have been in love with him for seven months.I have tried to forget him but i can’t.During these times,he has cared me a lot.He bosomed to me when he quarrelled with his girlfriend.And when i have problems,he helps me to solve.When i feel lonely,he consoles me.So how can i forget him??????? ;'(
Why can’t have… if both are in love, we can have… the problem is when both are in love, but both are married with others…
I’m a 21 years old male. I love my best friend from about 5 years. I proposed her last year, but she told me that she was in a relation with one of my friends. And we continued to be friends. Yeah, her boyfriend, being Somewhat possessive, got somewhat angry that time. So we stopped contacting for about 9 months.
One day, about 3 months ago, she told me crying that he dumped her.. She was very upset about it and need a friend. Obviously I was there. She asked if I still love her, and I told her I never stopped. I never forced her for anything. Yet, I never stopped loving her and she knows it. She cares for me and suggesting me not to love her all the time. Everytime when something goes wrong or she becomes upset, she calls me, ’coz she trusts me.
Now-a-days we talk to each other day and night and flirt too. But sometimes she becomes upset, feeling guilty about hurting me that time and says “You deserve better than me”/”I can’t love you”/”I don’t want a relationship” and Blah Blah Blah….
I don’t know if she can ever forget him and try for another (hell, none other than me). What should I do now????
She gone through a bad breakup thus give her some time. Of course she will forget him when she will get more love and attention from someone else, its human nature. Right now I would suggest just go with the flow and don’t force her to love you, she might need time to rethink about your relationship.
Yeah… Finally now yesterday night she told me she loves me. I can’t describe how happy I’m now. But still, as I’m one year younger than her (also about one inch shorter), she is kinda upset, says our families will not be ready. Now she is like she was in love with me for the very beginning. It’s like a dream come true for me.
Aww that’s sweet.. Happy for you. Don’t worry about the age factor.. Sooner or later parents will agree. Right now just enjoy each and every moment of your relationship. 🙂
i have a problem i fell in love with a girl whom my best friend likes too. he is now in canada while me and the girl are somewhere far away. what am i supposed to do? should i stay away from her or should i confess to my bestfriend or is there anything i should do?
Hey CJ,
Of course go ahead and tell her about your feelings. There might be chance that she too have same feelings. Best luck.
actually Ruchi my bestfriend is a guy who likes the girl i like… And I’m scared that we (bestfriend and I) will loose our friendship if he knows that i also like the same girl he likes. thanks for the reply 🙂
i m in love with a girl two years ago we chatted on fb lots and came closer to each other one day i prposed her she said i dont wanna be in love with anyone till i will be about 25 year old i said i will wait for her she stopped talking after some days we again became friend and again we chatted on fb one day she said its wrong that i talk to you bcoz u had purposed me so i don’t wanna talk to u i said as u wish my life became wost without talking to her we had fresher party in our college in preparation of it she slowly forgetting everything happened between us on the eve of fresher party she behave as she was my gf but next when i and she meet in class she said u told evrything to other peoples i said no i dont ever she said they tease me with ur name then after i made her believe that i never told anything to anyone about us but before one day diwli she messaged me and said happy diwali to ur family not u then we have lots of chat she had read my date of birth in my fb profile she said “u r 3 months smaller in age than me so pls forget me and i will search a partner for u that u will forget me i tried lots and purposed her she didn’t replied back after a month she again starts smiling and giving loving expressions to me one day she got a i card of my branch there were many students of my branch standing there but she gave that i card to me and said pls give it to belonging people i said oik next day i tried to talk to her after classes i stoped her in gallery of our school then we talk on her problem that she faced when boy of our college purposed her she said i m not interested in it that” and moved from there next day scheme of exams was stucked on notice board i gone in her class and she was alone she saw me and smiled i said “go copy ur exam scheme from notice boarda’ she said nothing but she gave lovely smile i came to my class she came behind me at the door of her class as both of our classes and doors are parallel to each other when i turned back she said “dont talk to u “i got angry and closed the door very loudly after sometime my best friend came in class he asked me what happen i told him whole incident he got to the girl and asked”why u r not tlking to him?she said “u know why bcoz he i small in age then me “my friend came back and said “forget her ” i tried alot to forget her but i unable then i decided to fall her in love with me but as i get to her closer she gets more far from me i m definetly sure that somebody is filling her ears with rubbish things about me but i dont know who he is any way we both get distance due to examinations but as my exams were over now i have very much time to get her back 3 days before i called on her cell phone with other no. as she made my no. to reject list pls help me in this situation her birthday will be soon what should i have to do now because i cant live with out her she is now my life pls give me some solution that i will get her back forever.
You better move on
no i cant pls tell me some ways that i get her back
Ruchi pls help me i m in lots of trouble pls
Great article – I love my husband a lot – but l feel really in love with somebody – He was my head teacher – I hide the crush so well nobody noticed… Ever day when he was in my life – my heart would beat so fast, I loved Dention coz l would spend it with him..
How ever when l left school the night before l cried & my mum knew something was right. So l was honest. I didn’t wish to leave…. When l left l felt heartbroken & missed him so much – that l started dating boys to fill that spot…
20 years later – I am married with a daughter. I love my husband….
But its not the same feelings – in fact l love him more than ever… My feelings are still stronger than when l was 16….
I still have this sadness & pain.
I have tried all sorts – I think of him every minute of my life…
The pain is horrible l wish it would all go away..
People say you get over it – yeah you do to a point – But it never goes away, the pain never goes away… It hurts like f**k… When u truly love that person – yeah you heal to a point but the pain never leaves you..you are never the same person.
If l could have that chance – I would love to tell him “I really & truly love you.” But then it could freak him out. Oh it’s hard. All you can do is to try not dwell on things. You try moving on but it’s a feeling that’s with you always. You do move on – but if you love that person it never leaves you ever. No matter what u try… In some ways l regret going that school. But can’t change anything now… So just got to live with it… It sure still hurts more than anything. 20 years on when people post memory’s of school days – boy it rips you’re heart out still. Wish this would just go away. I have tried so hard to forget – even ignored school reunion events coz of all this… Yet the worst of it is – nobody knew or knows. Not even my best friends know bout this.
Kept to my self accept for my mum & u guys reading.
your so right the pain doesnt go away it hurts and it sucks and it wont piss off… im not the same person anymore… i truly do love him but its never gonna happen, in 20 years i know its still gonna hurt… ive only told one person about this and i regret it because it came out one night when we were having a drink, ive never been one to express myself to other people so it killed me even more… what makes it worse is shes my room mate and we both work together with “him” and because i quit my job a few weeks ago because i couldnt be around him knowing that i could never have him, it sucks because deep down she knows why i left, everyone else jst thinks i got another job
I’ve tried to get over him, but I just can’t. I sit in my bed and just cry over him. I’ve loved him now for 8 years. I’ve had boyfriends in those eight years but have broken up with every one of them because they’re not like that one special guy.
There’s this girl Ive fallen head over heels for, absolute true love. i cannot imagine life without her, and though you may not believe me, i know she cant either. but im moving to a different part of the country, and we will surely never see each other again. I dont know what im going to do, but she means the world to me. ik we can text and video chat, but what is the point without the security of your love being right there next to you??? she is the one and only one who knows absolutely everything about me, and we could spend hours just sitting staring into each other eyes…what can i do though??? drop out of college to be with the love of my life, or move on with my life with a hole never to be filled
Yes the conscious says you should move on an accept the person doesn’t love you but how you stop the heart from wanting that person, i love a person that i cant ever have but i have come to accept it I love them unconditional i accept it but still i hurt. How do i stop hurting???????
Hey! Guys am also in a relationship with this girl that I really don’t think I can do without her. She means everything to me. We were so perfect together but unexpectedly I came to a notice that she’s in love with another guy in fact they were dating and I just can help it. I tried so hard to get her back but she couldn’t give me a chance and now that guy dumped her so I need you pls to advice me on what to do because I still love her so much :'(
I am so much in love and involved with the person I can’t have. He is married and he is a celebrity. I always miss him like hell. I wanted to tell him how I truly feel…that I love him more than just a fan thing… but I don’t think that it would be useful.. I guess it’s pointless to talk about my feelings. He might avoid me and ruin what we have at the moment. What should I do? I think about him every night and day…even if I’m busy at work and at home.
but if I see her l feel love with her what can I do
it hurts so much, ive fallen in love with this guy that i work with, but whats wierd is i fell in love with his personality before him, i never noticed him for a good 6 months then one day i noticed he was always laughing and never in a bad mood no matter what, and as time goes on my feelings grow stronger and stronger. It hurts so much because hes married and has kids so hes that guy that i cant have, i know id NEVER act on my feelings or tell him how i feel because i wouldnt ever ruin anyones family. it just hurts alot, if i see him at work im dying inside i try to hide it but its gotten to the point where a few weeks ago i HAD to leave my job because i couldnt be around him knowing that i could never have him, hes the ONLY person ive ever fallen in love with, ive never felt this pain before… it sucks so much, its been almost over a year and its not going away. Its him !
i feel in love with my sisters husband, i don’t know but everything seems like flashes of lightnings that strikes in my life..just this summer when he told me he likes me very much since the last time he visited in our place, its his second time to visit and this time they have a 5 months old baby already.. i was not able to believe when he told me that, until such time we get along together, he stayed for a month longer and we enjoyed each company, and crosses the line which i know its the wrong way..it breaks me so much every time i saw them together, i felt sorry and jealous at the same time since its me that will come up who beg for love, its like waiting for rain in the middle of drought..i tried to stop my feelings and willing to sacrifice everything for my sister cause i love her more than him..but it seems like that he dont want to end the relationship that we had, cause for him i will stay special in his heart, whatever may happened he said i already had space in his heart, he wants me to deserve someone but cant move on because of what he said.
U are right ruchi,
Love is a good feeling,anyone that hate love is a Devil o Demon because they don’t ever love.
am emotionally and genuinely in love with this girl and we ‘ve been friends. Ever since i told her my feelings she stop calling and answering my calls. She picked my call today and i asked her why is she not calling any more and she said ” I don’t wanna hurt you, that’s why i stopped calling. The more i call you the more you are feeling much love for me. I kept quiet on the call because i felt so bad in my heart and she keeps on asking are you hurt? Ruchi, please advice me, my love for her is so deep
Hey Godwink,
Try to treat her like a friend and make clear that you would give her space like earlier…she is avoiding you coz she knows you both are having different feelings. Thus give her time and if possible be friends like earlier.. tough but it’s better than not talking.
so do i need to tell her that we should forget our differences and be the friends that we used to be? i also wanted to stop calling her but i have a stronger feelings of missing and loosing her. Any time i think of her my heart beats so deep, what actually do i do Ruchi?
Yes Godwink,
Actually when it’s one side love, things are kind of uneven. But you need to treat her like a friend and thus give a space. Don’t keep on saying { directly or indirectly } that you love her, it will irritate her. It’s tough but you need to change your thinking and feelings.
iam grateful for the post. it reminded me that in life, i cant have everything i like.
I love this girl and I could do anything for her. We used to be friends, but then I told her the truth and she stopped talking to me. She told me that she finds it awkward because I am two years younger than her, but I believe that’s its only two years and these days woman do get married to men that are smaller than them. I have also tried forgetting about her but I can`t because I love her too much. I want to make her realize that I really love her but I don`t know how. I have tried sending her gifts and messages to her phone but it is not working and now she said that if I love her, I will forget about her and she is going University for four years and after she comes back. I don’t know if I will ever see her again. I don’t know what to do and I need some advice.
hey ruchi, i’m in love with a guy who doesn’t suit me( according to my parents) because he doesn’t have a job( actually he’s a social worker and he works for free for a political party) he asked me out about a year ago.i couldn’t give him an answer because i knew of my parents dissaprovel.but i still can’t forget him.i happen to get to k now him better in a friendly basis and i think now i’ve fallen in love.he knows of the dissaprovel but i feel like he’s still hoping for better.what should i do? sometimes i feel like i should forget him..but sometimes he pops up….i’m an engineering student and yeah we don;t macth in many ways…but i’m drawn to him still..plz help me…