There is nothing more hurtful than a Broken relationship. When we are in a relationship with a person who plays a vital role in our life, we are kind of use to and dependent to that person but this is life and sometimes because of few insane blunders such valuable relations gets cracked. People do say that once there is bitterness in any relation its impossible to get the same feeling and respect in that relationship but I don’t feel same. Dealing with broken relationships is not that easy and one need to make sure all steps should be taken carefully and all words mean the same.
If you really want to make up a relation then there are ways to bring a spark in that relation again. But before that you must be sure that you need that person back in your life, I guess if you are reading this article then of course you need someone back in your life.
There can be many reasons because of which love ones, friends, siblings depart but if you still have a soft corner for them then you should for sure try to revive your relationship again.
Tips to Save a broken relationship:
- Try your best to make up:
It’s tough to get someone in your life who was your strength, who used to be there when you need a shoulder to cry, who had the power to make you smile and who gives all reason to stay happy. But when such people move away from you then you find yourself lost and need lots of positive energy to get back on track of your life. If the reasons are not so bad for a break up of such relations then there is no harm to revive that relation again and for that you must stay positive and try your best to make up with such special person in your life.
- Forget and Forgive:
If you think that bitterness in your relationship is because of another person then do remember that he/she is a human being and humans do make mistakes. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes in our life. Thus try to forget the past and forgive others, especially if they made the mistake unintentionally. Forgiving someone never mean that you are less than other people, it shows that you are strong and wise enough to forgive someone.
- Keep ego aside:
This is the worst part of any relationship which always hold you back to bring your love one to you. After moving apart both people think who is going to break the ice because at that time ego is of higher priority than sweetness and unconditional love. If you really value a relationship then why ego is letting it down? If you really want to make up a relation then do keep your ego aside and use your heart to bring those sweet moments again in your life.
- The conversation always work:
There are a lot of confusions in your relationships once its breakup without clearing those problems, you wont ever get same feeling for each other. Don’t hide anything from each other. If you are scared that it might worst the situation then thinks twice, what the worst would happen? There is already lots of bitterness in your relationship. May be a healthy and unbiased conversation can bring the love back to your relationship, nothing harm in trying.
- Start afresh:
Once you both are convinced, forget the past, forget the bad moments and just remember how much important you both are for each other. Start your relation afresh and make sure that small problems and conversation don’t ruin your relationship again.
Bonus tip: If you always want to save a relationship, always be transparent before its too late and you start regretting your mistakes. It helps you to bring trust and maintain a long term relationship. If you are going to have an end of relationship conversation with your partner, and you want to fix this, it’s always a good idea to meet the person and talk instead of using phone, SMS or Emails. When you hold your partner’s hand and talk to them and try to make them understand your points, this might be really helpful to save this ending relation.
I hope this few factors will surely help to make your broken relationship sweet again. If you have more tips then do share with us, it might help others to get their love back.
Latest posts by Ruchi (see all)
- Decoding Mixed Signals: Unraveling the Reasons Behind Confusing Behaviors - April 20, 2025
- Starting New Relationship: A Gentle Guide to Getting It Right - April 20, 2025
- The Head vs. Heart Dilemma: Loving Someone You Shouldn’t! - April 20, 2025
Contents
I broke out with my boyfriend almost two years ago. I still love him and I still miss him a lot. I never understood what happen 🙁 and I have tried everything to try to forget him but I just can’t. What should I do?
Alyssa sad to know about your broken relation but if you want to forget him, you just need to move on and keep yourself so busy that thoughts related to your boyfriend doesn’t effect you. Here is a link to article which will surely help you: https://www.letstalkrelations.com/reasons-to-forget-your-ex-partner.html.
If you need more help you can surely contact us anytime.
Thank you so much Ruchi.
It hurts to realize that someone doesn’t love you any more, especially when nothing bad happened, but as you said, is better to move on and just leave the past. Sometimes it is complicated though, but is not worth to be suffering.
Thank you for your article’s suggestion, it helped me a lot!
You broke up with him! and you don’t know what went wrong! why did you break up with him? he probably loved you’d very much. 2 years have past and you did nothing to get him back? your loss. You girls are so messed up. I did every thing I could of to get the love of my life back when she bloke up with me. she just went NC after the break up. her loss too
Yeah what you said!! That makes no season to complain about how you feel AFTER you break up with him.
Hey i have problem with my girlfriend see said i love u so much but we cannot stay together in future because of her parents and caste problem sometime i feel that i was wrong for fall in love with that girl . I’m totally confuse,frustrated please help me what should i do ? i’m begging please help me if anybody want to solve it
Gaurav, don’t regret ur relationship with that girl. You belong to indian society and still there are girls who gives priority to family. Try and talk to her parents , may be your parents can help you out with same. If you both love each other and wanna be together then I am sure her parents will get ready.
If u both r determined den no force in dis universe can stop u… All da best…
Tell your parents why they didn’t teach you castesism when you were a small child.In those school days every parents and teacher used to say “Every human being is equal”.”Hindu-Muslim-Sikhs-Christian all are equal”.With these teachings a child grow.Then a time comes when a man want to strengthen this harmony of different caste and religion.The same parents,society becomes against who used to teach peace and harmony of different caste and religion.Tell your parents and society that you are making a great bond between different caste,you want to bring harmony and peace between different caste and you are eliminating boundary line between different caste.
If u truly love ur g.f. and want to spend whole life with her u should be wid her. When ur love is truly u wil be able to convince her parents also.
I am different from the Alyssa above. I have done a lot of harm in my relationship. I cheated on him in the past 3 weeks ago not sex just other way kissing cuddling making out. He decided to do the same to get back at me. 2 days ago I did know about it I was home while he did it and sat in the living room. I allowed it because I thought I deserved it. I love him he loves me. He has told me since then. I am 9 years younger. Which I think has a lot to do with it. He is a lot more nature than I am. I have lied plenty of times to him while he on the other hand has been completely faithful during our whole relationship. Please help me out with advice. I’m losing the love of my life.
@Alyssa
Mistake happens and it’s part of life but the important thing is accepting your mistake. What ever damage has been done , it’s done and now you should sit with your guy and talk to him and be honest. Since he is mature enough, he should understand and accept the way it is. The only thing which you need to do now is by being honest. If he doesn’t accept, it’s time to accept it and pay the price. If he truly loves you, he will be back but in that case, give him time and space. Best of luck!!
i m in a relationship of 3.5 yrs she broke up a week ago, it was not her fault completely my fault, in these 3 years she loved me like hell. i loved but never kept her happy i abused her, i had sex chats but i used to tell evrythng and she accepted evrythng and forgived me. but it ws happening from 3 years. but a week ago she broke up because the limits of hearing was crossed. i realized my mistakes then i said sorry i cried whole night but she is not lsitening anythng she is just irritated like hell. she has blocked my no. she doesnt want to hear my voice. and now situation is i m not able to sleep not eat anythng. i m ready to do any type of compromise with my life what evr she says, i even dominated her told not wear this and that. i said u can do anythng just forgive me. but she is not listening. other people related to me called her but she is not ready to understand and she has challenged me to make a bf in a week. i want her back. i just want one chance to prove my self, i m thinkink to go and meet her face to face and apologize for evrything. otherwise she is hating me like i have murdered her parents.
please help me
i’ve got the same problem dude,exactly same…but still no cure…help me too.it got almost a yearr…still cring daily…only thing i realized is that there is no god
hello i have been with my ex off and on sense we was kids. Once we have gotten older i decided to really try to have a honest relationship with him, because being we were kids i did have other boyfriends through my teenage years. He cheated on me repeatedly with different women and i broke it off with him as adults. Now he claims he really want us to work, we have been broken up for almost a year now and we have a child together. Sense then he moved in with a women within 2mths of us breaking up. Now he claims he wants his family and tired of the lieing and cheating and he’s ready to come home and be a family but he has said this in the past. im so confused! I dont know rather to believe him or not Im tired of the games.I feel if he loved his family so much why would he go live with another women when we broke up because he was cheating and thats not even the women he cheated on me with.
Hey Sarah, Sorry for your relationship. Can you please explain what you feel for him, you still love him or not? If you don’t have any feelings for him then better stay away. He seem to be a confused man and can’t satisfy with one person. When he will be back and later have arguments with you, he will again go to some other women.
If you can be a happy single mother then stick to it because problems in your relationship will effect on your child growth.
thank you so much for your reply it meant alot havent talked to him or seen him in months, he havent even checked on the kids i feel so much better that i let that go though at times it hurt for a second but i know it will get better im learning to love me again .
Once I was dating my girlfriend in my school, but we broke up like 2 or 3 year ago, also she is my best friend. I feel like I want her back, because I love her so much, it’s hard to have a conversation with her. Right now, I’m dating another girl, but I don’t know how to tell my ex girlfriend about my feeling. I feel love about her, and I really care about her. I am losing my love life. Can you help me to fix it?
“Don’t be in a hurry, because what happens is that the mind has light moments and dark moments, day moments and night moments. When it is a day moment everything feels very good; you can see everything clearly. When night comes everything become dark and you cannot see anything clearly.
There is every possibility you may decide something when it was night time, a dark moment, a low energy moment. If you decide something in that moment, it will not be wise because you have seen beautiful moments also with this man.So wait! Decisions have to be made when there is light. When you are again loving this man and things are flowing and everything is beautiful, ecstatic, then decide, and if you want to separate, separate! But don’t decide in the nighttime.
we r in a relationship from 1 n a half year …he loved me really a lot ..so did i ..but here comes my ego prblm that ruined my relation ..i mean i wasn’t that worse ….once we went on a trip … i was enjoying wid my frnds ..i never wanted to make our relationship open to everybody ..so i tried to ignore him ..i explained him y m doing this but still he never tried to understand the situation …n now he is treating me like hell ..he abuses me shouts on me etc ..but i knw he loved me a lot ..i begged for our relationship ..but nth was going ryt so i tried to kill myself bt unluckily m still alive bt cant walk ..i thought he will forgive me bt he says it doesnt matter what m now ..all that matter is what i were …i cant meet him or call him …he disconnects my call …n m not in a condition to go out bt we text each other daily …i try to sort out the things daily …use to beg bt i dont knw wot can i do more to save dis relation plz help me!! i knw he loved me a lot !!!
hi,iam grace.my parter got broke up with me and its more than 4 mths.he loved me a lot and used to say ‘i dnt want 2 miss u,be with me always’.i still dont understand what was the reason 4 break up.now if i call him, he blackmails me that he will go to my home and creat sceen.he hurts me with his words.
but still i love him.please help me. how to convince him!
Why you wanna connivence a guy who treats you like hell? Talk to him directly why he broke up and what he wants? If you need more help you can mail us.
Good luck.
hi my name is tasha i need a little advice i date 53 year old man i am 26and we fight all the time i do ever thing i cook i take care of his gran kids and take care of his house and he treat me so low i do it all for him i am a good person but i am lost and dont know hat to do i have to kids and i i want is a family and my kids to have a father figure in there life
Cmon Tasha, Leave that guy. If you will stay with a person who don’t respect you and using you then in what environment your kids will grow. It’s better to be a single mother than to have such father. Be confident, you can raise your kids and may be in future you can get a good father for your kids. You are just 26 yr old, you will surely find a right guy and I am not sure you are financially independent or not but you are young enough to stand for yourself and your kids.
To bring up kids most important is to have a good family and culture otherwise you will ruin their future. Thus instead of choosing wrong father, stay single and wait for right person.
Mother can do anything for kids, you have all capability to make your kids a great human being (you said you are a good person). Please move on.
hie, my name is kamal nd i was in relationship wid a gal of my class fr lst two years nd we brokeup 5 month back bcus her parents wanted her to study only.. wen she told me dis, i got angry nd i brokeup ..in the initial period of brkup i was normal bt nw i miss her a lot.. i tried so much to tak to her by calls, msg but no reply.. i really love her a lot nd i wnt her to cm bck in my life forever, plzzz sm1 help me out.. what shud i do to make up our relation again…
Hi im married 30 years old. But unfortunately we are not able to lead good married life. During at this time we i manage to keep in touch with my very close friend and fall in love with him, meet him be with him. We decided to get married as we found we both can create a happy family. He was so attached and lovable to me and he just create such a wonderful days and nights. But just becoz of few silly argument he decided to not be with him and completely ignored me. At this time the problem within me and my husband become more worse until i decided to just file the divorce case. But my life with my bf is not certain but i love him so much. Since 6 months im just crying and crying as cant accept the silent from him. I’m lost in my life. He don’t want to talk to me and ignoring me. I even think of commit suicide as i cant bare this pain. Mentally too disturbed and i behave like crazy some times. Please advise me n help me save my love…With very hurt heart.
I’ve been with my bf for a year and 8 months and I can feel our relationship slowly vanishing, he brings up breaking up every so often. I try my best to keep him happy, I even bought a guitar to play with him to get into his interest and nothing seems to work, I’m starting to think maybe he just doesn’t want this relationship anymore and I get really depressed knowing that. He went to mexico for 2 weeks and he rarely contacts me, we’re a couple who is in contact every second of everyday and now he seems to have forgot about his girlfriend, he didn’t talk to me for 2 days and every other day has been a 5min conversation through email. I don’t know if he wants space or a flat out breakup, please help. x(
Hey Daisy,
We posted your problem on our Facebook page and few of our readers provide the following solutions, hope these helps:
1. Why don’t u ask him about whats going on in ur relationship, so u know if he still love u or not.. Maybe he likes someone else thats why hes ignoring and he’s just waiting you to break up with him.. Its only my opinion.. leave a message to him about what u feel..
2. A guy feels too guilty to break up, he will make every possible situation to give you hint that its over. If you are smart get the hint because things will get worse.
3. Read between the lines…and it’s clear he needs space. Give it to him, set him free.At first it’s hard but you’ll be okay:)God bless you.
4. Just leave the dude…he is nt man enough 4 u…if he truely lvs u he wil cum back bt 4 now leave
The dude
5. someone will come ……..someone will go……..only soulmates will remain for life…….god bless.
If you need any help… you can surely contact us. Best luck 🙂
hey i was in a relationship n we are like good friends but i am vry much confused please help. I am 4 year old then my bf and i always have supported him but he is good when he is near he often gets physical with me n i allow. We are in distence relationship since 2011. He used to talk to me sm times when he was at his home. Now for higher studies he has gone pune and he doesnt talk to me lovingly or friendly n when i try to it ends with fight so i broke n he says its mine wish i can,t blame him 4 anything n he leaves me by saying that he is not able to make me happy better i should move on i need to s
ay more but i can,t kindly help me pls n ofcourse i love him but i can,t tolerate this behaviour.
if he tell you move on move on. if he dont treat you proper love wont work
Guys…I’ve been in love with this lovely girl named Bethany. Although we broke up due to disagreement many, many times. Afterwards we tried to make up but we both weren’t open with each other, when I asked her to be more open and chat with me more often she just told me I was a control freak and she needed her space, but I couldn’t just let her loose like that, I mean I’m afraid she’ll just leave me for someone else…anyways the worst has happened. Today she told me she doesn’t feel for me anymore and yet I still love her so much and she’s not willing to get back with me…please please help guys.
Hi! My name is anne, i’m 22. i’m in the long distance relationship for almost 8 mos. My boyfriend found out that i have someone here which i was talking and going out with 4 mos ago. He lost his trust to me. Another reason is Because of my lies about my past. We survived another 4 mos of being together but it’s full of fights and arguements. I love him so much and all that i’am doing now is what he wants. He wants us to get married and have a child when he got back here. I said yes to everything, since i want a family already. He has a lot of issues about himself because of a traumatic expirience with his ex girlfriend. now, he wants me to sign a custody for our future kids that if we divorce he will have the custody. I said yes to it, now i’m confused if this is still right.. I need advice.. Thanks!
Hey Anne,
Your Relationship is not at all Stable. Do you really want to be in a marriage where you are already talking about divorce. You lie to him, you involve with someone else and still you think that you love him? If you really love him you won’t ever lie to him or go on date with someone else.
Think again about this relationship, I guess before taking such a huge step make sure you really wanna be with him or not.
Hello. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years now. Several months ago, I found out he had been smoking and doing drugs behind my back and even though he knew how I felt about it (very sober lifestyle), he did it anyways. He appologized and was very sorry and guilty and I accepted it and forgave him. Since then, I have had trust issues and don’t know what to do. I still love him and I know he is clean now but I still feel hurt. Whenever I try to talk to him about how I feel, he gets defensive and even now, I am finding out that when he confessed, he bent the truth and didn’t tell me everything because he didn’t want to hurt me. Help me please.
Hey Sophia,
When it comes to drugs, people can’t quit them so easily. That might be a reason that he said lie to you. Thus, instead of not trusting him, give a shot again and you help him to quit his drugs. And if you really love him, you need to have patience and keep an open mind.
Apart from drugs if he is cheating on you then you can think of losing trust. But if its about drugs, he needs your help and gradually he will quit them.
hello
my boyfriend and the father of my daughter have been together 4 and half years. we have 2 step kids from a previous relationship his a daughter 16 n son 14. we have huge financial stress we own 3 houses and we are drowning in debt and as my hubby says its cause i can stop spending and hes right i cant stop spending min not sure why but i think its cause my mom always does and i see her do it and have seen her do it all my life and i now i think with a family of mine i can do the same thing, well we cant and i realize i am pushing my hubby away further and further. I need to surrender the card debit. we have been though a lot in our relationship the lose of his father suddenly the cancer took over so fast and my hubby has yet to deal with that and or the pain, I smile and i go through each day trying to see the brighter side of things. he has told me lately that he is unhappy and that the relationship is broken and the damage has been done. So in my mind i see that if i can get the 20000.00 that we need by July 1st and show him that hey hunny i can do this let me show you i have changed then maybe he will stay with me and i can show him just how much i actually do care. about him and our family, i don’t want a broken family, but he said to me you came in with nothing and you will get everything all 3 houses, one or all the vehicles we have 3 the camper it will all be yours, i honestly think i can fix it cause its all me it seems im stressed out i stress him then the money goes then that’s more stress the stress of 3 houses. the financial burden is huge we signed a rent to own on one of our houses and in 3 years we will be free of that house but the other house our vacation house i think we need to put it on the market and sell it through a Realtor. i think that once the houses start to disappear the stress will fade and he will go back to who he was. the wonderful hubby that i love so much and that i fell in love with because of his care free lifestyle and his always happiness. if i can show him just the person who i am an who i became after i took my course and get the reconnection with him i will feel so much better. i am a different person i need him to see that. i hope its not to late and he wont leave me but he said to me yesterday i will pretend to be happy just to make you happy. i want real happiness with him not pretend i need to show him and i need to make him see that the 4.5 years we have been together is not wasteful and i can do this. I hope you can help or shed some light on to this for me.
Hi, me and my partner had a big argument and we didn’t speak for nearly two weeks because of it because he didn’t want to. We have decided to continue but its just not the same since. Its ruined things. We can’t seem to have a flowing conversation mostly because he doesn’t make conversation when I try to. He said he is hoping we will get it back but it will take time. I found a girls number on his bedroom which shows he has lost interest in me! How do I get back what we had together or does this sound like it can not be fixed?
Thanks
Hey Stacey,
If you both love each other than you need to give time to this relation. And just seeing a phone number doesn’t mean that he lost interest in you. There might be few things from your side too which might be bothering him. Try to have patience and talk with him clearly what he wants. But keep following points in mind while you talk to him:
1. Talk only when he is in good mood.
2. Listen what he want to say, don’t intrupt or get into arguments.
3. Keep your ego aside and think through his point of view.
If you love him, you can surely follow above points. If you don’t love him, you won’t able to accept your mistake or change them and won’t ever understand his problem.
There is no relation which can’t be revived… you just need to make efforts and be calm.
Best luck.
Just curious I am in a relationship and it seems the trust is gone. We argue alot and there have been past trangrescies I love him and we have a family been together for 7 years Sometimes I want to leave and just start fresh but then I think and I really want to stay with him what can be done to restart our relationship?
hey am havin a little problem in my relation.thine is my ex lover kissed me and i felt guilty of it and told my boyfriend about it,i was about explainin how it happend my fone went off@that moment i was with my pastor so i kept my fone on mute he called me i didnt pick nw he’s feeln am avoidin hez calls so he switchd off hez fone hav tried all possible best get him tru but to knw avail i love him so much i need your advice
Hey Mirable,
Meet him in person and tell him whatever happened..Communication is the key for healthy relationship.
thanks so much we’ve worked thins out and we are back on track
That’s lovely mirable.. Wish you lots of happiness ahead 🙂
Hey, I have a question.My boyfriend and I are really good together. We have both made mistakes but we have one thing most relationships don’thave and that is trust and respectmost of thetime. We dontmake decisonswithout talkingto the other person. We aregood for eachother but have our own problems. We’ve been dating for 2years and almost 5 months. Lately, we have been arguing a lot. I feel he is never happy and always angry, he gets really frustrated easily and sometimes doesn’t talk to me the best but then againwe both do that sometimes. I do everything, well a lot. I clean, do the laundry, take care of the dogs and I just don’t feel appreciated. I feel like he is or happy with me either but when I ask him he reassures means says he is happy and loves me. I also feel like he doesn’t want to spend time with me, I ask him to go to the dog park or spend time with me but seems like he never wants to spend time with me unless its what he wants to do. We both are not innocent and have made mistakes but never cheating, we trust each other but sometimes he makes it difficult to communicate. He just doesn’t like talking about how heis feeling. I really love him and our life and want to make this work but sometimes I feel like we are having troubles and I’m not sure how to fix it. We both getfusteratedeasily.whenever I tell him I’m leaving he gets upset and says “nice to know what you want” and never wants to leave or threatens me. Truthfully we protect each other, fight like an old married couple and still flirt like first loves. What should I do? Indeed advice. Lol
That was good but myself i have a problem my boyfriend and i broke up few months ago and he is dating somebody else he told me to move on but i realy love him i want him back in my life The last time we met he kissed me……
I have been with my husband almost 5yrs and recently found out he has been cheating with a woman he’s known for 15yrs also found out he’s been sexual with her on and off during those 15yrs now he’s telling me he can’t lose me u mean so much but I can’t seem to forgive him and it hurts so bad becus I’ve never loved anyone as I do him but I feel so hurt I can’t see forgiving him
I have a such loving boyfriend whose gave him the world to me but due to my past experiences i never have learnt to trust and only being very manipulate and controlling. I am too scared of losing him, i used many extreme ways to prove that he is real to me. and now he said he wants alone time and i have been begging him not to do that to me cause we have never spent a day apart before and hes pushing me away and not answsering my phone calls. but few days ago he said “lets forget about everything and work for our future” but and then he opened up saying how many harmful things i have done to him and he is very scare of my behaviours. he doesnt want it to be repeated again but he still wants to carry on. so i asked him if your living in pain just end the relationship but he stayed silent. i can sense he still want to try for the last time but what can i really do to win his heart back again?
thank you
Hey Joanna,
Good thing about you is you know whats your problem. You dont trust others easily and control others. Both these things are dangerous for any relationship. If you really love him, try to improve your thinking. Trust him and give him some time. Let him think whats good for you both and meanwhile change yourself a bit so that he can be comfortable with you.
Talk to him and sort out things.
Hey so I had a boyfriend of 3 years . 3 years was on April 1st . About. A week ago we had people over at our place we got really drunk and got into a stupid fight that went way over proportion and he need up leaving me that night alone and went to his bestfriends house . His best friend was out if town and it was just my boyfriend and his best friend girlfriend there , he spent the night there and I woke up the next morning with just a horrible gut feeling that he cheated on me but I convinced myself that I was crazy and he would never do that to me . That day he told me he wanted to take a break and he wanted me to go back to my moms house do he can think.. I sat there all day long absolutely hating my life crying ,wondering what I did to ruin our great relationship and I couldn’t think of anything that I did because we were doing great . Later that day I was packing my things and he came back home and begged me to stay so of course I did . Then the next day he came home from work and sat me down and started crying and told me he cheated on me with his best friend girlfriend.. I’m so heart broken , confused , lost , depressed and don’t know what to do !!? I really NEED HELP!! I need some advice !!? He says he so beyond sorry and it was a huge mistake but I don’t know what to do or what to believe!?): after three great years this happens .. I really need help so please someone give me advice !!? ):
Hi Im duma Ive been dating this guy 4 almost 7yrs his is ignorent his a cheater and apologise when i find out,now i dont trust him and we in long distance relationship and have two kids.now I’m tired to leave an unhappy life when i try to talk with him he ask me to leave him alone when we together his spend his time play chat with his phone he only come closer to me when is time to sleep please help me what must i do because i love him so much but I’m not happy
Sorry Duma, but its better to move on. He is cheating on you, don’t care about your feelings and because of him you are not happy. If you won’t be happy how you will bring up your kids happily.
You haven’t mentioned how he treats your kids? If your kids are grown-ups then you can discuss your problem with them. It’s always better to take decision practically when kids are involved.
How can i save a relationship we been together 6 years off and on 🙁 and i dont have a great past dealing with cheating and lies u regret all of it but she we fight.get back together for the duration she says the same thing.over and over again like saying she is done and will never come back but when i sit and wait she comes back but i dont wanna.waste time anymore i feel like im losing her i know in person contact will help things but what do u do when that person doesn wanna see u every time i ask can we get lunch n talk which is something we always do when we fight threw out the years i want a serious relationship with her but i put her threw alot i know i have no sense n lying i want my life to end with her family started but how can i save my relationship im not gonna give up her i love her to much but what is it that im missing i apologize every chance i get n express my love every chance i changed now i want her to see n allow me to show her but i dont know how……i need help
Hey,
Trust is most important part of any relationship especially someone you love. You cheated her, lied to her and now you want her back. IF you are really changed and love her truly, try to talk to her politely. But last decision will be hers that she wants you back in life or not. You can’t force anyone to be in a relationship.
Ruchi,
I had this really good friend. We had been friends with benefits since the first day we met in person. She had a girlfriend and told me that we could only be friends. Unfortunately I fell for her and when I told her, she said she needed time and space. That time and space was for four days and she told me that we could only be friends, no more sex. I told her that I’ve had missed her to which she replied with an “I know that!”, that made me feel like a dumb person, cause she told me that if I couldn’t be only friends with her, we were done. I told her that all those four days that we didn’t speak, I had been thinking a lot about our sex. That I tried to think about our conversations and good times together, but I could only see her in bed and she got mad. She told me that that was all she was to me, that in my mind we were never friends, just sex friends. She said she was disappointed at me and that she didn’t wante to text nor call her anymore. That she didn’t want me in her life anymore.
What can I do to get her back in my life, to be friends with her again?
I really miss her, even knowing that she’ll never be anything else than just friends with me, I just want her friendship.
Hi Alma,
She is right in her part. She needs you as a friend but you just want her to satisfy you. Neither you love nor want her as a friend, its just a physical attraction. Try to forget her, make yourself busy with things you like to do or make new friends. It better to move on because you can’t force anyone to stay with you, especially in such situation.
i have a gf being 3 yr and jus broke up, before tat have many times of argurement and patch back. She love me wholeheartly , will do anything for me but i didnt appreciate her , no give her hapiness , no give her security , warm and treat her very cold..now she broke up wiv me and now i jz realize i love her very much and cant lose her.She say broken is broken already and she feel tired in this kind of relationship and many chances had been given since 3 year oreli .She is very angry with me and ask me clear my mind .
How to woo her back bcos i really don wan to lose her.. and she since to have someone in mind tat she feel happy to be with.
Hey TN,
Just make sure that you really love her or its just your ego that you want her back? You never cared for her and now you expect her to be back with you after breakup. Before trying to get her back, know your own feelings. Why you used to fight with her or never given happiness she deserved? You need time to think do you really want her, if yes then make sure you not going to behave so rudely with her again. If you change your attitude, she might see the difference and change her mind.
I hope you are not going to make me pay for posting my comment. If so, please disregard my comment because I did not know about the payment.
Your Comment made me laugh..Don’t worry we don’t charge anything. Just love to help others. 🙂
Hi Ruchi,
Its really nice to see your replies for the people who need help in relation. Well, these days I am one of them 🙁 Hope you will try to help me too.
I was in relation with a guy (who was my best friend earlier to that) over a year ago. We were so good as friends but our relation did not worked due to some misunderstandings only. I was bit immature to understand and he expected me to understand him without even saying. Little hard, however! But then we move ahead, he asked me to be just good friends.It was hard time for me too. But I understood that I can make the things alone. It will be a one sided relation, otherwise. I tried that time but dint end up in making our relation back. And I stopped talking to him while making certain excuses. We were not in touch for almost 8 to 9 months. I used to call him sometimes in between, He responded me well either.
But soon i realized, that I still feel for him, Whenever, I come up to meet another guy or i think of having a new relation, I found that I am actually not able to! Then I decided to talk to him about it, but when I wanted to had a word with him I got no courage and gets nervous again. So I thought to have a simple conversation with him just hello, hi etc. And slowly we started staying in touch again just like we used to be when we were very good friends to each other. I was happy enough with that.
And one day he started expressing indirectly that he missed me through and also he used to do all those things which I expected him to do when we were in relation. He never said it to me directly and made me felt special once again. I could have seen his efforts. Though I know, he is not that easy guy to express his feelings. But this time, he really tried and said the things well but still indirectly. I thought to have a direct communication with him on this, But got a negative answer that time.
I am just not able to understand that what does he want. I stopped being connected once again with him after his negative answer. And stopped hoping for some good. But then, he came all of a sudden, and said he wants to see me with him (may be as friend, not sure). I thought to give him some time and let him pursue me, if he really want to be with me. He gave me enough importance, he used to say me that I am special and important as well and I always welcomed his feelings and responded well.
Ruchi, I am really not able to understand him on this part. Whats going on in his mind? I tried to ask him, but he never gave any direct reply and simply ask me to think less and stay happy. Its been three years being friends, he should have collected enough courage to speak. And secondly, i told him that I still feel for him, but he did not responded to that and when i really leave he come to me and don’t even let me go. Please try to help me to understand him.
Hey Cessa,
I guess he is still confused that he wants you back or not. He does love your company but need time to think about long-term relationship. It’s better not to force him right now. It would be great if you can continue your friendship and meanwhile let him decide what exactly he wants from this relationship. This guy is not sure and needs time. Hope it helps.
Me and my girlfriend dated for a year and almost a half. She thought i was losing interest In her and didn’t want to believe it so she broke up with me so i wouldn’t hurt her. I never lost interest I was just getting depressed and stressed out. I really love her and want her back but she’s really sad and depressed but i want her to know i care still. She’s keeping my Baby picture and a necklace i got her. She still has m e on Facebook and she deleted her ex’s and blocked them. What can i do to get her back? I really love her and want her to know i never lost interest.
Hey Mo,
You better let her know your feelings. May be you are not showing your love to her, she is not God that she will understand what’s in your mind. So, express your love and get her back.
I don’t know how, she doesn’t want to talk and i don’t want to pressure her and make her drift away. I was told its best to give her space but i don’t know how much space and i really want to explain everything and be happy with her again. Isuffered from depression and we both thought i healed but i guess I never did and her parents told me they never seen her as happy then when she was with me. But i feel like i ruined it And i want her so bad. She is still so sad and i feel like the best thing i can do is show change and respect her space. But idk what to do. We are both going to FloridFlorida for an internship together and idk if I can work things out there.
am not a victim of heart breaks but some times shit happens and we lay blames on our selves
Hi Ruchi,
I had been loving my college mate for two years. We never had any opportunity to talk and know each other except the four months of my last year. I had never let her know that I want her to be a part of my life. I hid all my feelings thinking that I might hurt her. The worst day came where I had to express myself to her. I failed to make her understand and she left me. Its been two years since we separated and never had chance to make her understand that I still love her and I want her to be my part and parcel. I failed at every steps I made to forget her. Its really hurting and day by day the guilty conscious of hiding this to my parents kills me vehemently.
Hope you understand my position. I still love her but I am not in a position to make her realize that. Hope you help me to recover from this situation.
Waiting for your reply,
Thanks,
Aravindh.
Hey Aravindh,
If you have her email ID, phone number or any other contact then do tell your feelings properly. Make your mind what you really wanna convey her. Atleast give a try before trying to forget her.
Hi Ruchi,
Thanks for your reply. I mailed her but she couldn’t understand me properly. So, the only option I am left with is to forget her which is what I am unable to do so for all these years. I left to God and hope I ll recover sooner or later. If you have any suggestions to do the same, kindly do give which should be helpful for me at this situation.
Thanks,
Aravindh.
Hey Aravindh,
You mailed her and she couldn’t understand means? Hope you were clear what you want to tell her. If you want more help, you can mail us.
My name is Rodi, Me and my girl dated for complete 4years, 2008-2013 When is about 2month to our introduction/wedding, I now get to realize that she have another man that she was dating for almost 6month, within the period of 2012 May to November 2012, and the man had sex with her for almost three times due to little distance between us, I trusted her so much to the extent of not believing the person that narrate all her story for me, But immediately i keep giving her alot of trouble and stress, she later convex for me that it’s work of devil, I really love her so much, But with what was just happened recently am totally confused and my heart was totally broken into peaces , But the most big problem now is that, she said she was pregnant for me, AND the pregnancy is now 4month now. Please advice me, what can i do, Should i continue to go for the introduction or i should stay away from this damn animal that called herself wife?????
Hey Rodi,
Sorry to know about your problem. It’s clear that your wife don’t love you, otherwise she won’t even think of getting into any other relation. Sorry to ask, but are you sure its your baby? You love her but it’s high time to clear with her what she wants from you. If she is staying with you just for society/parents sake then its better to depart. If you need any help you can mail us.
my name is simi.i have a relation with my bf since 6 months.he is too gud,too caring n too loving.i love him so much,he also loves me so much.his family knows abt me,n my family as well.but the thng is,i had hidden sumthng about my past,n his friends are telling him by adding some extra things.now he wants that d relation sud be end,but i cant live without him,he is hurting himself due to my mistake,m sayng 2 him dat to meet once only,but he is refusing,i need him at any cost.please help me
My Girl friend is simple but after having fight between us she never use to call or texts me, she cares for me and loves me but doesn’t express it at all she always pretend that she is ok even after we have very serious fights she also use to hide her mistakes and tries to confuse me when I found that she had did things which I don’t like. She also use to tell lies to make me happy but I always caught her lies and it hurts me a lot in turn. I don’t know what to do I luv her and can’t live without her and can’t live like these also, if I m giving luv n concern to her in turn I also want her to show some concern and care.
we nid 2 talk privately.pls
You can mail us your problem via contact form
Hey I recently our relationship in that place where again I revive my relationship
but Now I am not feeling that’s feeling which I felt by her
I love her so much so please kindly request to you when our relation will be normal
Ruchi di
how can I get my love whom I love bcz of fighting c is not as c was
c thinks we have no future
our age difference is 5 yr so temme di kaise samjhye
one more problem wid our relation is I cn do anything for ma relationship bt c is afraid to do all things
so how can I mk ma relation more strong without her support
bcz m taking all risk for ma love c feels bad that’s y c want to broke out relationship
di I can do anything I just want her support for our relationship
n di we have distance relationship
we only meets 2 times in 2 yr
pls di suggest us to save our relationship
My girlfriend broke up with me but i told her that i still love her,and from that day she stopped calling and texting me and i also stopped calling and texting her,but after two weeks,she texted to know how i was doing,she even called me my love,does that mean she still loves me.
Hi Ruchi,
I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 4 years, and we’ve been good all along living together just sometimes with minor arguments abroad studying until we graduated from University and went back to our hometown, we live in the same country but seems as though we feel quite distanced apart cause we don’t need to rely on each other anymore and have our own lives back to our family again if you get what i mean. 6 months ago, the day that we broke up, she went on holiday until new years eves, and we she came back i wanted to see her however she couldn’t she was too tired but insisted seeing her, i guess it was my fault however we got into an argument and she switched her phone off until the next day and texted me saying she doesn’t love me anymre, she has no feelings for me anymore all of a sudden, and when she was on holiday, we were constantly texting love and bubbly words to each other.
After the break up, i was or still am heart broken, we didn’t talk to each other for two weeks however i then couldnt resist talking to her so i told her i can now accept being friends with her which she asked before when she broke up with me, she wanted to become friends. But my idea of being friends with her is because i want to get back with her. And one day, when i didn’t text her back, she went crazy for a day, she went a bit insane trying to find different ways to contact via online social communications, and phones, texts. I really don’t know what she’s thinking about, and now when i ask her to go out for a friendly dinner or acitivity, she always has to ask someone to join us, making the end of the day 3 or 4 people having dinner.
She usually comes to my place to dinner with my family every few weeks and when i bring her home, well i can surely still feel the slight chemistry when we are alone, i don’t know if it’s just me but i surely think that or feel that there’s something stopping her to reach out another step. And we’re going on holiday soon but not alone though, i don’t know what i can do, i think she doesn’t want to deal with arguments anymore with me but through these few months i have changed a lot trying to see what i’ve done wrong in the past and what i can do better for her.
What shall i do? have i dragged it too long? will i be able to get her back?
Thank You
kimberly
Iam reading over some of your info very interesting, my issues is iam goin on 7 years with my bf we have had good times n trying times as any relationship. Would..but I jus try my best to make my bf understand how I feel I mean I stuck by him through. . Him cheating and whenever hes down..im there but now it seems like hes distant he says I call and text him to much.. but I thought I was supposed to , idk now when im at his house I notice my things are hidden. . And I asked him about he declined to talk about im really lost tired of crying but I kno he loves me.. jus dont kno how to fix this broken. .relationship. .
My boyfriend asked me tor break n I wasn’t able to handle that thing I went completely mad at that moment n lately his Bro handled me.I was heart broken n so needed somebody I kissed him in front off my so called ex boyfriend means my boyfriend he got pissed he is not ready to understand plus his friends are not letting him to get back Wid me m pissed somebody PlZzzz help me out it’s urgent
I proposed a boy..he accepted it,and we were living wid happiness in our life,bt he broke up saying that he luv his family more than me…bt 1 month after he again proposed me saying that he loves me..my problem is that he is a boy wid so much of ego..and we r lacking conversations since few weeks..how can I check whether he really loves me or not? And how can I deal wid his ego as due to this our relation is nearly breaking point..plz advice me,I m very stressed..
Hey Shivani,
I don’t think that guy has guts to marry you. Ask him clearly what he wants from this relationship. If he agrees to marry and can convince his parents then its good for your future, otherwise just move on. It’s tough but good for you.
Hi
I hurt my girlfriend unintentionally because of some bitches that flirt to me.and now may girlfriend broke up with me. And now i regret all the things that happen to make a relationship end. And her no longer trust. And i still love her.what should i do to take her trust back?
I mean my girlfriend broke up with me and i regret all the things that happen to make our relation end. And all of her trust to me is gone. I still love her so much. that should i do to take her trust and love back thanks
Hey Lester,
If you think that the main reason for the breakup is someone else and there is nothing you have done then its better to make her understand that you love her and no one else. It would be better if you talk to her when she is in good and understand what you want to say. Hope it helps.
thanks for that advice!i’ll do that
pls a need a solutio to this, me nd my girl wll ave missunderstanding recently we setled steal yet i ave i did’nt understant her any longer cus her movement i don’t no again, what should i do
Hi Ruchi, I have been with my bf for 7yrs. Till now, I believed we had a good relationship. However, he used to lie to me for small reasons like flunking his exam while he’ll tell me he cleared it. He would make plans to visit me but when the time came he used to avoid discussing it with me. I introduced him to my family but he kept giving me excuses about meeting his side of the family. Even though he lied to me about these things, I continued wiyh him since I loved him and the fact that he didnt cheat on me was reason enough to be with me. Two weeks back, we stopped talking to each other (his fault) and I soon found out he text flirted with a junior of his. He ecen tagged her in a photo in facebook which that hirl told him to put. In his inbox, that girl sent a msg saying I love and that stupid bf said I love u in return with all he emoticons. All these happened in one night. When I confronted him about it, he told me he only chatted with her and he I love you’s were just for fun. He said he made a bad mistake tagging her (its a big issue for me because I begged him to update his relationship status for 7yrs but he used to give excuses all the time and in one night he listened to that girl and changed his photo which she liked and tagged her. I just dont know why he did that to me). He cried the whole night asking for forgiveness but I didnt give me a chance. Now its been two weeks, we don talk to each other, in he occasional text we sent, he tells me he loves me and regrets about all the lies he told me. But I just don’t know how I can trust hom again. Yes he didn’t physically cheat with me but even he emotional thing he had with her kills me. He even told her we were going through patch. She is only 19yrs for Gods sake and we are bloody gonna be 30 soon. Please help me understand why he did it and what I should do…
Hey Blythe,
You took right decision. It’s better to move on. You can’t trust a guy who keep telling you lies every now and then. Seven years is a long time but for your future it good that you don’t trust him now.
Help me please
Hey i have been dateing my mate for 12years and for the whole time he has been doing things that i feel is wrong for a person to do who is in a committed relationship, like staying out all night leaving the house as soon as.i leave for work have a lot of girls for “friends” and just a year ago i found out that he fathered a child.that is not mine .i forgave him for it all and i still feel as though the same things are happening even if they are not .i want to leave him but i love him so much and im all he have here and i dont want him to feel like i.dont care what should i do ??? im losing myself in this relationship
i have been engaged with this wonderful guy. He’s 34 y/o and 7 years older than me. He is very mature. He cares a lot for me, always been supporting me for my studies and he loves me a lot, even more than i do. We have long distance relationship for one year. But unknowing i have hurt his feelings. We were planning to get married next year. All my friends are planning to pursue their postgraduate studies and hearing them, i wanted to do the same. But since i will get married, it will be kinda difficult for me to continue my PG. I will have to get married, work then do my PG. Then i started to worried about my freedom after marriage. I was scared that I wunt have much freedom if i get married. But my fiancee told me, when time comes he himself would like me to continue my studies. But hearing my friends talking, I said bad things to him.. It really hurt his feeling. I told him that he is old. Now he sed he is setting me free since i want my freedom. He has even taken a long break and throwing gift that i gave him. I really love him. I appreciate everything that he did for me. I can;t live without him. I really want our relationship to prosper and grow. He isn’t talking to me nor answering me. Please give me some advise. I fink i have been very selfish and took him for granted. How could i have been so insensible :'(